Why Some Relationships Don’t Work!
As each human is unique so is each relationship. However, there are some universal threads that tend to occur in most unhappy relationships. These elements either lead the couple to seek help for their relationship or simply end it. In many cases, with the right help, a dysfunctional relationship can heal and transform into a thriving one.
The main pitfalls in a relationship that are not working can be looked at on two different levels. The first of these is the easily identifiable surface level. This could include obvious incompatibility, personality clashes, poor communication skills, lack of conflict resolution skills, and/or faulty coping mechanisms.
In each of these areas, it is very easy to recognize the presence of the issues in the relationship. Those who know or are around the couple could easily pick out what is being displayed within the relationship. However, often the couple themselves cannot so readily see these surface level problems for they are too caught up in the emotional aspect of the relationship.
The second way to understand why a relationship is not working is to look at the deeper issues within each person and how those are being played out in the relationship. Generally, most people cannot do this on their own and require the relationship help from a professional.
Some of these may involve issues from a dysfunctional childhood, which could have included abuse (physical, mental, emotional, or sexual), addictions, or poor parenting. It may also have to do with personality disorders or mental health issues such as depression or bi-polar disorder.
The good news is that if both partners are willing to save their relationship and have the right help they can!
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Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. is a Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert, Acclaimed Life & Relationship Coach, and Author of the relationship and self-help books It’s That Simple! for men & women.
Bree has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
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