Monthly Archives: October 2013
Why Does He Call Me A Nag?
Relationship Help For Women
Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer
Frequently, the biggest error a woman makes in her relationship is what men refer to as nagging. The relationship problems that stem from this are simply because a woman does not consider it nagging and the man does.
When a woman looks to her partner to get something accomplished she will request that of him. Generally what occurs next is that the man categorizes and files it in his brain as a “need to do it immediately task” or “this can wait, I will get to it task.”
However, he does not communicate this to her and she believes it will be taken care of immediately. When this does not happen she will ask repeatedly until she becomes angry and frustrated with him. Do you recognize this dynamic within your relationship?
If so, there is hope! Below are relationship help advice tips to help solve this problem.
Relationship Help Tip #1:
Pay Attention!
That means to listen to your partner. Instead of “hearing” what you want to hear, pay attention to what he is telling you. Is he stressed at work? Is he overwhelmed with home projects? Are the kids draining his energy?
Relationship Help Tip #2:
Take Action!
By taking a proactive stance with her listening skills, a woman can change this common relationship problem in no time.
What do I mean by this? It’s simple, instead of listening for what you want to hear, you become objective and listen to what he is actually telling you.
For example, if he is in the middle of a massive project at work and under a tremendous amount of stress, not asking him to fix the garage door until he is on more stable ground takes care of it.
The paradoxical part of this relationship problem is when effective communication skills are used it never exists.
Relationship Help Tip #3:
Change It!
I can help you with your relationship either by suggesting you read It’s That Simple! A Woman’s Book On Relationships, Life, Ourselves And The Healing Of It All or suggest you reach out to work with me one-on-one.
In the book you will learn incredible relationship help tools, information, and practical skills to apply to your life and relationship that will create unbelievable positive changes for you.
If you would like more personal attention, I will join with you and help you each step of the way to making your relationship better then ever before. Please feel free to reach me here. I look forward to hearing from you!
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Not Sure About Staying In Your Relationship?
Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer
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Facing the choice to either stay or leave your relationship is never an easy place to be in. Feeling torn and unsure about what to do can be a torturous experience.
The first step is to gain absolute clarity of what issues are causing you to question the permanence of your relationship. Many times a person may feel it is just easier to end a relationship rather than face what is truly going on. I always advise both men and women to stop before making such a decision and address what is wrong first. The regret of letting a relationship go and later wishing you had not is an even more difficult place to be in.
I am often asked, “Bree can this relationship be saved?” My rule of thumb is to always try and heal what is wrong before exiting the relationship. The only time I would not suggest this is when there is abuse occurring in the relationship.
So how do you try to fix what is wrong? There are several options available:
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- Talk through the things that are bothering you with your partner.
- Come up with workable solutions to resolve what is creating the discord.
- Make a tangible plan of action your partner and yourself can do to make changes in your relationship; and then follow through on them.
- Read a good relationship help book that gives you great information, tools, and guidance on how to improve your relationship.
I recommend It’s That Simple! Relationship Help Book for Men & It’s That Simple! Relationship Help Book for Women.
5.Seek out the assistance of a professional. Be sure to pick someone who specialized in relationships and has the education and experience to deliver the help you need.
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One final thought, before making any major decision about your relationship ending, try imagining your life without the person. Can you see yourself moving on happily without them or will there be something missing? If there will be something missing then be sure to take the steps to save your relationship before just walking away.
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Looking to Your Partner To Give You Something They Can’t?
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Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer
In my work over the years, I have found that both men and women enter into relationships with unrealistic expectations. They idealistically jump in with a picture of what a great relationship should be but end up very disappointed when their partner does not deliver it. Some would say that women tend to due this more frequently than men, however, in my work I have found it to be equal on both sides of the sexes.
So Why does this happen?
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Most commonly this occurs because the person feels a certain void or “lack” within them and tries to fill that with their partner.
This never ever, ever works! Why?
Simply because of the fact that a person cannot heal or fix that empty space within another human being. That can only be accomplished by the person doing what I like to call their “inner work.” This inner work involves honestly looking at oneself; the good and the not so good parts, taking personal responsibility, learning how to accept and love oneself and doing the healing work that is necessary.
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Another reason this happens with people is that they have bought into a false idea of what a healthy relationship really is all about. This happens due to television, movies, and music that sell the “fantasy” of a relationship and not the reality of one.
For women, this has commonly been called the “Cinderella complex.” It is the buying into the fairytale of the prince saving her and experiencing a happily-ever-after that does this to women.
For men, there is no such name, yet they hold onto the vision of the “perfect women.” This woman will be beautiful, sexy, smart, talented, want sex constantly and take care of all of his needs while not having any need of her own. Of course this does not exist, but men have also bought into the fantasy.
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So what are realistic expectations to have when it comes to a healthy relationship?
- Everyday will not be magical and filled with grand romance.
- The sex will not always be earth shattering and incredible.
- There will be days where one or both partners are in a bad mood.
- Your partner will eventually do things that annoy you.
- You will wish certain things about your partner were different.
- There will be moments when you will question your relationship.
- There will be times when you have a mis-communication with one another.
- You may go through tough times like a job loss, health issues, or financial struggles.
- You will have to compromise.
- You will feel angry at, frustrated with, disappointed in and hurt by your partner.
However you can also expect:
- Having times when the sex is unbelievable and the Earth does move!
- Your love to grow deeper and more profound as time passes!
- Feeling deeply grateful for having your partner in your life!
- Feeling loved and supported by your partner!
- Wanting to share all the good with your partner!
- Having fun just by being together!
- Creating a life full of meaningful memories!
- Laughing together and sharing joyful times!
- Learning more about yourself!
- Having a best friend and lover to walk through life with!
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How To Have A Great Relationship! Help From An Expert
Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer
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Men and women frequently ask me, “Bree, what is the secret to a great relationship?” I have found that what these men and women are really looking for is the answer to, “What am I doing wrong?” Usually, their current relationship is not working or their last relationship ended for reasons they just cannot figure out.
The wonderful news is that with the right information, understanding what works and what does not, a great relationship is very possible!
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Honor
Although the concept of “honor” may seem a bit old fashioned, it is critical for a healthy relationship to occur. So what does a couple look like who honor one another? They show each other respect and treat the other accordingly. When a person respects another they are careful to not offend or harm them in anyway. When a couple does this for each other, they create a strong and lasting bond.
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Kindness
Yes, being kind is vital for a great relationship! It may seem overly obvious that couples should treat one another kindly but surprisingly many couples act very unkindly to their partner. When a man or woman is considerate and acts in caring ways to his or her partner, this creates a powerful and intimate connection between them.
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Communication/Conflict Resolution
One of the top mistakes couples make is not learning effective communication and conflict resolution skills. A couple who does not know how to talk with each other end up having a disproportionate amount of misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and arguments. These then lead to unresolved resentments and a break down in their relationship. This is such a common problem that I dedicated a whole chapter to it in the It’s That Simple! Relationship Help Books for men and women.
Truly, investing in learning in these skills not only saves relationships it creates happier more loving ones!
Having a great relationship does not have to be difficult! Treating your partner as you would a treasure you cherish, learn how to talk with him or her, learn how to work through conflicts that arise and you too can have a great relationship!
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