Monthly Archives: August 2013
Confused On What She Wants? Relationship Help For Men!
Relationship Help For Men
Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.
One of the biggest complaints I hear from men is, “She doesn’t tell me what she wants, she just expects me to know it!” This leaves most men feeling frustrated and angry because their goal is to make her happy. In order to make her happy, he must know what she wants from him and their relationship. He wants to be told exactly how to do it…makes sense right?
It makes perfect sense to men but unfortunately not to women.
Generally speaking, women operate from the mindset of, “If he cares he would know what I want!” To men this is absolutely absurd; however, for women it makes complete sense…hence the problem in many relationships!
Relationship Help For Men
I am assuming that if you are reading this article you are a man experiencing this with your woman.
In order to remedy this element in your relationship talk with her. I know what you are probably thinking, “Great! more talking just what I do not want to do!”
The bottom line is that men and women speak distinctly different languages. We think, process, interpret, and hear things in a different way than one another. The key to solving this problem is to learn how to talk with her in her language.
I wrote a whole chapter on how to do this in the It’s That Simple! Relationship Help Book for Men.
To give you an example, you could say something like, “Honey, I want to make you happy but I feel so frustrated because everything I try does not seem to work, can you please help me by giving me specifics of what you would like from me?” Then be quiet and listen. I will repeat that as it is vital in this process…put all your focus on her and listen!
She will be so impressed that you are sharing your feelings and asking for help that she will practically fall all over herself trying to tell you everything that works for her.
The ironic part of this element in many male-female relationships is that she has already told him many times but he never heard it. In other words, she let him know what she is looking for from him but the key is that she did not do it in his language, so he never heard her.
Most men would like their woman to say some form of, “Honey, when you help with chores around the house without me having to ask, tell me I am beautiful everyday, and listen to me when I am talking, especially about my feelings that makes me feel very happy.” However, the chances of this happening unsolicited are low because remember women are operating from the “If you cared you would know” mentality.
Relationship Help For Men
As frustrating as this can be for men, once they learn the information they need to talk with her in a way she can hear, all these problems melt away and solutions appear.
Having trouble in your relationship and looking for some help? I work with men all over the country via phone sessions to guide them each step of the way to a better relationship. You can reach me here.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
#1 Secret Men Should Know! Relationship Help For Men
Relationship Help For Men
Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.
Whether you are married, have a girlfriend, or are tying to win a woman’s heart there is one thing you definitely need to know….she wants real communication from you!
Not the answer you were expecting?
The bottom line is that women love to communicate because it helps them feel connected to the other person. A big mistake many men make is overlooking this very important element for women.
Real communication is simply sharing, listening, and reflecting back what you are hearing.
So if it is so simple, why do men have such a hard time with this?
Relationship Help For Men
Generally speaking, men are taught to suppress their feelings, toughen up, shake it off, and be a man. This conditioning, which starts in childhood, is reinforced by the social construct furthering the lack of communication skills men are taught. Women, on the other hand, are taught and reinforced from a very young age to talk about how they are feeling.
In addition, men and women communicate very differently. For example, when a man says to his woman, “I am very stressed at work” he is explaining fully how he feels. However, she wants to hear all about the details of why he is stressed out because that makes her understand what he is going through and feel closer to him. Often, this will ignite a disagreement between them because he will feel she is asking for more from him, which is more stress.
The key to success in any male-female relationship is to learn how to speak in the other’s language. However, most men and women continue to speak to one another in their own language ending up frustrated and angry when it does not work.
It’s That Simple! Relationship Help Book for men gives you a step-by-step guide on how to understand yourself, your woman, and communicate in a way that really works for both of you. After reading this and applying your newfound tools in your relationship, you will be amazed at how happy your woman will be with you!
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
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Does She Always Nag You? Relationship Help For Men!
Relationship Help For Men
Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.
Are you feeling as if you can never do anything right for your woman? Does it seem like no matter how hard you try she nags you about little things that do not mean anything to you? Are you tired of trying to make her happy only to have her complain about how you did it wrong again?
If so, then you are not alone!
One of the top complaints I hear from the men I work with is that they cannot figure out why she constantly nags. The answer is quite simple…ready? She is not happy with you and your relationship!
Now that may sound harsh but it is the reality of the situation. The real question that needs to be asked in this situation is, “Why is she not satisfied with you and where did this start?”
For many women in relationships, they need help with how to communicate with their man in a way he can understand. However, they are unaware of this fact. Because of this, they talk with him in a female language and become frustrated, angry, and ultimately resentful towards him because he is “not listening.” Sound familiar?
Men and women do not communicate, interpret, nor hear each other’s language in the same way. This is a major factor for relationships falling apart when they do not have to.
That is why after fifteen years of working with men, women, and couples I wrote It’s That Simple! Relationship Help Book For Men and for women.
The It’s That Simple! Relationship Help Books teach both men and women in relationships how to understand themselves and their partner so they can have a happy and loving relationship. Each book provides the exact information and tools you need to transform your relationship for the better. You will learn how to hear and deliver what she is asking for so she will never feel she has to nag you again!
Relationship Help For Men
If you are thinking. “Wow that sounds great…I want to learn all of that but I hate to read” then the other option for you is to work with me directly. I teach men how to:
1. Talk & listen so nagging will never happen again!
2. How to have a great sex life with her!
3. Understand why she does and says the things she does that make no sense to you!
4. How to make her happy & your relationship thrive!
5. How to find a healthy balance for you and her so you are both happy and fulfilled!
6. How to keep her & your relationship trouble free!
If you are one of the millions of men who are scratching your head wondering what went so wrong and how to fix it, you will find the answers here for you. Contact me here and together we will get started right away!
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
Does Your Relationship Need The Help Of God?
Relationship Help
Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.
Most relationships experience some hurdles that will need to be overcome. These tend to fall into the same type of categories such as…
- Communication Problems
- Intimacy Problems
- Lack Of Compatibility
- Parenting Style Differences
- Differing Life Goals
- Feeling Unloved or Appreciated
- Lack Of Knowledge In How To Have A Relationship With The Opposite Sex
However, those relationships that chose to put God at the center of their relationship have a high rate of success.
Quite a bold statement to make!
However, over the last sixteen years of helping men and women with their relationship, I have consistently found those who have a shared faith, actively pray, and look for the answers to their problems in God, move through their relationship issues much easier.
So, if all relationships are vulnerable to some problems, why do those who have an active faith endure better?
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The top reason is their commitment to their partner and family. They feel that breaking up and/or divorcing is not an option. Due to this, they are more likely to look for solutions to their problems rather than a quick escape route.
Another reason is the moral code they chose to live by. In other words, if they have an intimate relationship with God, then they are more often than not choosing to make morally sound decisions. Therefore, they avoid the traps many other couples fall into such as infidelity.
Finally, these relationships have a foundation based on love and giving versus selfishness and taking. They have a propensity to look to help and support their partner rather than trying to get something from him or her.
Many couples, however, experience times in their relationship when they need some assistance in learning how to talk with one another, parent together, improve their sex life, learn conflict resolution skills, or even how to fall in love again so they can reopen their heart to one another.
If you are experiencing any struggles in your relationship and would like to transform your relationship into a happy, loving, and thriving one please reach out to me here and together we will get you where you want to be!
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
How To Win Her Back! Relationship Help For Men
Relationship Help For Men
Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.
Regretting letting her go? Do you find yourself thinking of her and wishing you could hold her again? Are you thinking about ways to win her back but are unsure of what the best plan of action would be?
The fact is that relationships break up for many reasons – infidelity, too much fighting, lack of compatibility, miscommunication, misunderstandings, timing, etc. However, sometimes relationships end when they really did not have to.
If you want your woman back there is a way to reunite and start your relationship up again!
Relationship Help For Men Tip #1:
Put The Ball On The Tee!
Even if your break up was not messy, you may be unsure if she will want to hear from you. If this is the case, the first step is putting a little feeler out, which will give you some indication of where she is with you.
You can use a short simple text message or email in order to find out.
Be sure to start with something light and causal like, “Hi Mary I hope you are doing great!” If she is at all interested in talking with you, she will respond most likely with something in kind. It may be short and non-feeling so do not be alarmed, as she will be wondering why you are contacting her.
If she does not respond at all, she may be completely over you or she may be very hurt and angry and needs more from you, which brings us to the next step.
Relationship Help For Men Tip #2:
Setup The Shot!
Prepare yourself to take the next step by aligning your mind and heart with what you really want with her. Assuming that it is a reconciliation or at least a trial run back together, be clear on what you would like to achieve here.
If you would like to try again with her put in order all the reasons why this is a good idea. In addition, make a list of all the great things you shared together. Maybe you miss her smile, how smart, beautiful, and giving she is, perhaps you miss the friendship you had together and the ability to share your daily life with her. The important thing here is to actually do this because it sets you up for the next step.
Relationship Help For Men Tip #3:
Swing!
You are now ready to share with her what you have in mind. Begin by addressing the issues of why your relationship ended and the way it could be different now. Give her all the examples you came up with so this can be accomplished. Then share with her all of the reasons you miss her and want to win her back.
Again, depending on the exact circumstance of the breakup determines the amount of convincing that will need to be done. Obviously, if you cheated on her that is going to take a whole lot more time to bring her around then if you had a miscommunication that ended things.
Relationship Help For Men Tip #4:
Follow Through!
There is nothing more convincing for a woman than consistent pursuit with follow through. If you really want her and your relationship back then the best thing you can do is pursue her and follow through on what you promised would be different.
If she is completely closed to the idea of you working things out again give it some time, perhaps a few more weeks or so and then try again. If she is still not willing, it will be time to face the reality of the situation and move forward in your life without her.
If she is willing to try again but is cautious to reignite the spark with you, be very patient and move slowly with her. This will help her ease back into the relationship at a pace that feels comfortable and safe for her.
Reuniting with the woman you care for or love can be absolutely amazing. Couples who choose to come back together, especially those able to move past what caused the break up in the first place, usually have a more solid commitment and happier relationship than ever before!
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
Relationship Help For Men: How To Make Her Feel Loved!
Relationship Help For Men
Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer
Recently a lifelong male friend asked me, “What can I do to make a woman feel loved?” I was so taken back by his question, as I have always known him to be a very loving man. However, it was a great reminder of how often many men feel lost when it comes to women and relationships.
To answer his question as well as all of the men who keep scratching their heads wondering why she never seems happy with you, here are some great tips to help your relationship…
Relationship Help For Men Tip #1:
Repeat, Repeat, Repeat!
Be sure to tell her how you feel about her on a regular basis. Men tend to think once they tell a woman how they feel about her, she knows it, and that is all that is needed. However, for most women, they like to hear how he is feeling about her and their relationship over and over because it makes her feel emotionally closer to him.
When a woman feels emotionally connected with her man, she is much more likely to feel loved and happy with their relationship.
For those men who have a hard time expressing their feelings this can create a breakdown in the relationship. For example, if he is falling for her but does not tell her, she will begin to question his intentions and then insecurities about their relationship can develop. For a married man with this issue, his wife may build resentments towards him because she feels he does not care enough about her to let her know how he feels for her on a regular basis.
Relationship Help For Men Tip #2:
Uniqueness!
When a woman feels that you see, know, and appreciate what sets her apart from all the rest, she feels loved by you.
How can a man do this with his woman? Simply, point out her special qualities and be sure to keep any sexual innuendos out of the list. Why? A woman wants to hear how amazing she is to you not how much you want to sleep with her.
Men often make this mistake thinking if they tell her how much he wants her sexually, she will know how much she means to him. This backfires on the man because she will end up feeling that you only want her for sex and not because she is a unique, awesome, amazing woman.
To be very clear here, a woman likes to hear that you desire her but if it is the primary message you are telling her it will turn her off and definitely not make her feel loved.
Relationship Help For Men Tip #3:
Show Her!
This tip may sound overly obvious but it is commonly missed by well-intentioned men.
How can you do this?
Simply use her likes and desires when making decisions or plans. For instance when you are planning a night out, be sure to pick restaurants or activities she would enjoy. Perhaps she loves boating and being on the water, planning a day like this will surely let her know how much you care.
However, be sure not to point out to her that you are doing this for her because that will take the meaning of it away. Instead, just go ahead and do it without the explanation as she will notice immediately on her own and feel very loved!
If you would like more help for your relationship please feel free to contact me here. I look very forward to working with you!
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
My Husband Makes Me Feel Bad About Myself!
Relationship Help For Women
Sadly the phrase, “My Husband Makes Me Feel Bad About Myself” is one of the top searched by married women looking for help with their relationship on my site.
The fact is that countless women are quietly suffering everyday in their marriage. How they feel about themselves and their ability to show up in all the other areas of their life is negatively impacted. Their capacity to lovingly mother their children, efficiently perform daily activities, and successfully perform on the job becomes more and more difficult as their marital problems increase.
They look for immediate solutions hoping something will ease their pain and help their relationship problems. The professional coaching I provide gives woman an alternative to marriage counseling and provides these woman with the ability to…
Relationship Help For Women
- Build A Healthy Self-Esteem So She Can Feel Good About Herself!
- Learn How To Take Care of Herself Emotionally, Physically, & Spiritually So She Is Not Depleted!
- Learn How To Set Healthy Boundaries With Her Husband, Children & All Relationships In Her Life To Honor Herself!
- Learn How To Communicate With Her Husband So They Can Successfully Work Through Their Issues!
- Learn How To Peacefully Transition To A New Life If She Is Done With Her Marriage!
- Learn How To Be Happy & Create A Positive Fulfilling Life!
When a woman is struggling with a husband that demeans her and creates feelings of inadequacy, she can feel very alone in the world. She may be embarrassed to share what is going on in her relationship with friends and family so she carries this burden all by herself.
It is a painful and difficult experience but the good news is that it does not have to be. There is help and answers.
I have helped women in this situation for over fifteen years and I can help you too.
Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.
I will join with you and guide you every step of the way.
You can feel and be happy again!
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/