Monthly Archives: November 2012

Should You Break Up? Relationship Help From Expert Bree

 

 

Relationship Help From Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.

 

When a relationship is healthy and happy the thought of ending it never comes to mind. However, when there are issues, playing with the idea of walking away can become a constant.

 

Outside active abuse or addictions, I do recommend trying everything first to save your relationship. If there is active abuse or addictions present then intense professional intervention through a mental health professional is necessary.

 

So what does trying to save your relationship entail?

 

It depends on the level of issues and damage in the relationship. For instance, if you and your partner are picking at one another and not communicating well anymore, then you can attain valid relationship help from the right book. If your relationship is in a state filled with anger, built-up resentments, and there is no communication going on, it is time to work with a professional relationship expert!

 

I wrote the It’s That Simple! relationship help book for men and for women to help people heal their issues and mend their relationship on their own. These books walk the reader through a step-by-step simple to understand and apply healing process. If the reader applies everything they learn in the book, they will have the opportunity to turn their relationship into a great one!

 

Now, if things are more serious then working with a relationship expert would be the correct step to take. Be sure to work with an expert you are comfortable with who has the education and experience needed to guide your relationship to a thriving place.

 

Deciding to end a relationship is a big decision that should not be made lightly. Gaining the right relationship information, tools, and help is a vital piece in making your final decision.

 

If you need to work with a Relationship Expert reach me here.

 

Acclaimed as the Best Relationship & Life Coach and Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW,  FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post. Bree has a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with individuals and couples.

Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer provides relationship help books online and free relationship help online.

For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/

 

Relationship Help For Women From Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.

Relationship Help For Women

 

More often that not women will ask me, “Why is he doing this or not doing that?” concerning different behavioral aspects of their man. What they are really asking is, “can you help me with my relationship?”

 

To begin, we must address something that is extremely obvious but deserves noting, and that is men and women are different!

 

We think, feel, understand, process, and communicate differently. Once each gender understands this fact, it makes having a healthy relationship that much easier.

 

While in a relationship with a man, one of the common traps women fall into is having the expectations that he will feel and act like a woman. When she does this, she is setting herself up for frustrations and great disappointment. It is important for women to accept that the man in their life is a man and will not see things and react the way a woman would. When a woman has the appropriate expectations of her man, her upset lessens greatly!

 

This is not to say that men are buffoons and women should expect very little of them. It does mean that expecting a man to relate to life and your relationship the same way you would creates problems.

 

Another widespread mistake women fall into is communicating with their man as if he were another woman. This is such an issue in relationships that I found it necessary to devote an entire chapter to how to communicate with the opposite sex in the It’s That Simple! relationship help book for men and for women.

 

When a man and a woman learn how to communicate in a language that their partner can understand, it increases their emotional bond and decreases any discord in the relationship.

 

The interesting thing is that we are given an education about math, science, economics, and even how to drive but we are not taught how to have a great relationship.

 

Having a healthy and happy relationship takes the knowledge and tools to do so. Time and again I have seen good people who love each other fall apart because they do not have the relationship skills to get through the tough times.

 

I have two ways of helping people with their relationship:

 

#1) It’s That Simple! relationship help book for men & relationship help book for women

 

#2) Working personally with them via phone or Skype sessions. If I can help you please contact me here

 

 

 

Acclaimed as the Best Relationship & Life Coach and Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW,  FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post. Bree has a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with individuals and couples.

Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer provides relationship help books online and free relationship help online.

For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/

 

Getting Rid Of The Anger To Help Your Relationship!

 

Relationship Help For Couples!

 

Anger is a natural human emotion, however, when it is not processed and let go of, it becomes a detriment to your relationship.

 

Unresolved anger is a consistent element found in those couples who have come to me for help with their relationship. They have allowed the anger to go un-addressed until it built build up into full-blown resentments. Once these resentments were created emotional walls were then built between them.

 

I am sure you have seen these couples; when one rolls their eyes when their partner is speaking, they have a difficult time agreeing on anything, and fight frequently.

 

They are both miserable and make everyone around them, including their children, unhappy!

 

In order to tear down these resentment walls in a relationship there must first be recognition of the core of the anger.

 

Many times this anger has to do with one or both partners feeling unheard, unappreciated, unvalued, and/or unloved. Under the anger and within all of these feelings is a layer of hurt. Addressing this hurt is vital in repairing the relationship for the long term.

 

Once the hurt is addressed, validated, and healed the couple must then rebuild the emotional and physical intimacy lost in their relationship.

 

This is accomplished by both partners being willing to look at the issues causing the anger and making the needed behavioral changes.

 

This may sound a bit overwhelming and quite frankly it can be! That is why I always recommend couples receiving the help of a relationship professional. Having this help creates a streamlined, efficient path of healing for the relationship.

 

 

If you need relationship help, feel free to contact me here.

Acclaimed as the Best Relationship & Life Coach and Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW,  FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post. Bree has a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with individuals and couples.

Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer provides relationship help books online and free relationship help online.

For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/

 

 

Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. Helps Couples Stop Fighting!

 

Help To Stop Fighting and Start Loving  Again

 

Most of the time when a couple is fighting more than not, there are layers of unresolved resentments that have been allowed to be built up within their relationship. These resentments can cover an array of issues such as not feeling appreciated, valued, respected, and loved.

 

When couples fall into this harmful pattern of continual fighting, they need relationship help tools that really work!

 

They need to learn how to:

  • Communicate effectively versus aggressively
  • Use peaceful conflict resolution skills
  • Respectfully disagree without attacking
  • Come to a mutually acceptable solution

Unfortunately, many couples do not have these relationship help tools and end up slowly but surely destroying their relationship over time.

 

What makes matters even worse is if there are children involved. Children with parents who are always fighting are being negatively impacted and can even experience emotional and psychological trauma due to the situation.

 

In addition, the children will not learn how to appropriately and effectively handle disagreements and will continue this dysfunctional pattern in their adult lives within their relationships.

 

The answer is to stop the negative cycle by learning how to peacefully get through feelings, circumstances, and differences of opinion with the right relationship help tools.

 

I have two options to help couples with their relationship problems…

 

The first is with the It’s That Simple! relationship help book for men and relationship help book for women.

 

The second is working one-on-one with the individual or couple in order to teach them what they need to know to have a successful and happy relationship.

 

I work with clients all over the country through telephone or Skype sessions. If you would like to work with me you can reach me here.

 

 

Acclaimed as the Best Relationship & Life Coach and Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW,  FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post. Bree has a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with individuals and couples.

Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer provides relationship help books online and free relationship help online.

For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/

 

 

 

Relationship Help Advice For Men From Expert Bree!

 

The bottom line is that when a man cares for and loves the woman he is in a relationship with; he wants to make her happy!

He will do everything he knows how in order for this to happen. However, is frequently met with disappointment and anger by her. This is most likely why one of the top questions men ask me is, “Why is she never happy with me?”

This question comes not just from a man’s hurt and frustration but a true lack of understanding of why what he is doing is not working.

The best relationship help advice I can give to a man is to always start by getting help. However, for most men asking for directions, guidance, or help is counter intuitive.

Why?

First it is a man’s nature to want to figure things out on his own. Second, is that most men have been conditioned into believing that asking for help equals weakness. So you have a situation where he needs help but doesn’t want to ask and feels if he does he is less than a man.

Quite a quandary wouldn’t you say?

The great news is that when a man can push his way through this and reach out for help, he opens the door to a much easier and happier relationship!

When a man works with me to help his relationship, he learns the ins and outs of how his woman thinks, feels, and most importantly what she expects from him!

I help him understand specifically what she is looking for from him, the relationship, and then teach him how to deliver it!

One of the reasons I love working with men to help their relationship is because by the time they come to me they are really ready. They are open to learn and apply the information very quickly and the results are amazing!

There really is no need to struggle with making your woman happy. Once you get the relationship help you need you will know exactly what to do and be astonished  at how easy it is!

 

 

If you are ready to learn how to make your woman happy contact me here!

 

Acclaimed as the Best Relationship & Life Coach and Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW,  FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post. Bree has a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with individuals and couples.

Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer provides relationship help books online and free relationship help online.

For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/

 

Use This To Help Your Relationship Right Now!

 

So often I am asked, “Bree what can I do right now to help my relationship?”

Of course the answer is multi-layered according to the specific needs of the couple. However, there is one thing that will always help a relationship and that is to have fun together!

In our world today, where there is so much stress, angst, and worry that having fun has become a lost art. We have forgotten how to let go and extract the joy out of the moment.

For any relationship, playing and enjoying your time together is a key piece of making it a great relationship.

So how do you turn away from the ills of the world and stressors in your life long enough to have a little fun with your partner? It’s Simple, you make a decision to do so.

By just setting the intention of bringing fun back into your life and relationship will get you half-way there. The other half, which is loads of fun is the actual doing of it.

This does not need to be expensive or complicated to accomplish. All it takes is remembering what is “fun” to your partner and yourself and then do it!

Putting laughter, fun, and enjoyment back into your time together increases your emotional and physical bond. When these elements are strong so is your relationship.

 

Here are a few relationship help tips for fun!

  • Hold hands while attempting to skip through an open field
  • Simultaneously do “cannon balls” into the water
  • Push one another on  a swing in the park
  • Bake cookies from scratch while in your pajamas together
  • Blow bubbles up into the sky together
  • Play in the sand and make sand castles together
  • Use sidewalk chalk and draw happy silly pictures together
  • Fill up water balloons and through them at one another
  • Play hide and seek with the finder laying kisses on the hider
  • Play a game that you both enjoy-maybe even strip poker!

 

The object here is find what brings you joy and do it together. Having fun and laughing together brings incredible healing to a very stressed life and relationship! Go ahead and have some fun!

 

If you need more relationship help click here.

 

Acclaimed as the Best Relationship & Life Coach and Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW,  FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post. Bree has a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with individuals and couples.

Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer provides relationship help books online and free relationship help online.

For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/

 

I Need Relationship Help Advice: Our Sex Life Is Gone!

 

Relationship Help Advice For A Good Sex Life

 

Far too many couples are experiencing a bad sex life these days!

In my work with men and women, I have found varied reasons why this occurs. However, a poor or non-existent sex life usually has something to do with a problem emotionally or physically with either one or both partners.

What does this mean exactly?

Let’s start with the physical first. As men and women age their body chemistry and hormone levels change. As a woman enters into pregnancy, post-pregnancy, perimenopause, menopause, and post menopause her sexual hormones are often so out of balance that it impacts her libido. As a man enters into his late forties and early fifties, his testosterone level drops and so does his sexual interest and functioning.

In addition to changing hormone levels, when a man or a woman does not receive the proper nutritional and supplemental support for their optimal health, their interest in sex drops.

Why?

When our bodies our not in balance and receiving the right vitamins, minerals, and nutrition it needs, the body shifts gears away from sexual reproduction and focuses on survival instead.

Through on top of this hectic schedules and the incredible amount of stress people are under today and sex goes right out the window!

Now for the emotional components, which can be very complicated. In severe cases such as when a person has experienced sexual abuse, having a normal sex life with their partner is often very difficult. In these types of cases seeking the help of a mental health professional is recommended to deal with and heal from the abuse.

Outside of such severe cases lies build up resentments, unresolved hurt and/or anger, and a lost interest due to a lack of emotional connectedness to oneself and partner.

According to the degree of these issues is the type of relationship help needed.

For instance, if a couple is experiencing some unresolved anger along with having a hard time communicating, then I would recommend the

It’s That Simple! relationship help book for men and for women

If they need more they can work with a professional specializing in couples such as a relationship coach or counselor.

I help with clients with their relationships who live all over the country because I am able to do so through phone sessions. The beauty of this is the couple works with me from their home or office setting, which feels very comfortable and safe for them.

This has helped my clients in two ways. The first is that they do not have to find time in their busy schedule to come to my office nor do they have to face sitting in front of me. Due to this convenience and layer of anonymity, my clients are able to move more quickly through the healing process. They feel safe and comfortable and because of that open up more and faster so we can get to the healed place much quicker.

When it comes to creating a healthy sexual relationship with one’s partner there is help available! If you would like to work with me to help your relationship, contact me here.

 

Acclaimed as the Best Relationship & Life Coach and Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW,  FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post. Bree has a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with individuals and couples.

Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer provides relationship help books online and free relationship help online.

For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/

 

Can A Book Really Help A Relationship?

 

Absolutely!

Just as long as the book is written by someone who knows what they are talking about and has the credentials to back it up!

After working with couples for fifteen years, I wanted to be able to help couples everywhere to have a successful relationship too.  I determined the best way to do this was in the form of a relationship help book. The key was to write one for men and one for women.

Why?

Simply because men and women process and understand new information differently. Knowing this, I wanted to give men and women a book that they could each understand and then be able to apply in their relationship.

When a couple is facing some roadblocks they need real relationship help that gives them tangible results.

Here are some of the positive results a couple can experience after reading It’s That Simple!

  • Transformation of their poor communication into effective communication. This entails learning how to talk and listen to one another in a simple way that works for each partner.
  • Bringing back the emotional and physical intimacy that has been lost. This part is a vital piece of a happy and healthy relationship and needs to be rebuilt as soon as possible.
  • Letting go of old pain and resentments that are blocking their life and relationship from thriving.
  • Changing thinking patterns that are harmful to themselves and their relationship.
  • Creating the relationship they have always dreamed of having with one another!

There is help available for your relationship!

 

 

It’s That Simple! A Man’s Book on Relationships. Life, Ourselves & The Healing of It All
It’s That Simple! A Woman’s Book on Relationships. Life, Ourselves & The Healing of It All

 

 

Acclaimed as the Best Relationship & Life Coach and Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW,  FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post. Bree has a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with individuals and couples.

Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer provides relationship help books online and free relationship help online.

For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/

 

How Forgiveness Helps Your Relationship!

 

Relationship Help Through Forgiveness

 

“To err is human, to forgive, divine” is a famous quote by 18th century English poet Alexander Pope.

The simplicity of this statement has incredibly profound meaning.

When we recognize that we all make mistakes in one form or another then we are able to walk through the door of understanding and over the bridge of forgiveness.

The other side of forgiveness is a great gift freedom. This freedom allows us to live, create, and love from our highest self. We are able to come from a pure place of love instead of a wounded place of pain.

However in most relationships, there are patterns being played out from past hurts that have not been forgiven. These patterns can be about many things—a past lover who cheated, a broken heart, or unresolved issues with our parent(s).

The fact is that when we do not forgive we carry that hurt and anger with us and then act it out in our current relationship.

When I am working with an individual or a couple, one of the main goals is to help them recognize this and then change dysfunctional patterns in their relationship.

A common misconception people have about forgiveness is that if they forgive they are telling the ‘offending’ person it is ok. This belief keeps many from choosing to forgive.

The truth is that forgiveness has everything to do with us and nothing to do with the other person. That is because when we do not forgive we are holding ourselves in a prison of anger and resentment. This prison is dark and lonely preventing true happiness, peace and love to come in.

However, when we forgive those who have hurt us we are allowing ourselves out of that dark prison. Ones perceptions, attitude, reactions, and actions all change positively when true forgiveness has occurred.

 

Relationship Help Steps:

  1. Make a list of all those you have not forgiven.
  2. For each person write out your side of the story. Be sure to write why you have every right to be angry.
  3. Draw a mean and angry picture of the situation with each person you are angry with.
  4. Scream, yell, curse, beat a pillow, and rage about it until you get it out.
  5. Cry and then let it go… simply release it.
  6. Choose to forgive. Make a conscious choice to forgive the person.
  7. Release the other person and wish them well.
  8. Repeat steps 1-7 as much as needed!

 

If you need some help with this or your relationship reach me here.

 

Acclaimed as the Best Relationship & Life Coach and Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW,  FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post. Bree has a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with individuals and couples.

Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer provides relationship help books online and free relationship help online.

For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/

 

 

When This Happens Even The Best Relationship Help Will Not Work!

 

Why Some Relationships Cannot Be Helped

I am often asked by men and women desperate to stay with their partner, “Bree, do you think our relationship can be saved?” My answer always depends on one factor…willingness.

 

When partners in a relationship are each ready to voluntarily and eagerly do what it takes, there is great hope that the relationship help they receive will work.

 

However, if one or both partners are not prepared to make the needed changes within themselves and their relationship, the success rate is not good.

 

When I work with a couple, the one key element that must be present is this willingness. Otherwise all of the relationship help tools I teach them cannot work.

 

So why do some have this agreeable attitude and others do not?

 

In my experience, the person who is not willing to do what it takes is struggling with one of two things.

 

The first is the fact that they have already emotionally checked out of the relationship. They may be going through the motions of reaching out for help with their relationship but they have already shut down. This can occur for many different causes, some being unresolved resentments, a lack of forgiveness, or feelings for another person.  In any of these scenarios, the person has consciously or unconsciously closed themselves off to the possibility of it working out.

 

The second is that the person is not ready to look at him or herself. It takes great courage and strength of character to explore all the depths of oneself. Many men and women would rather walk away from their relationship than face those places within them that they do not want to deal with.

 

It is incredibly sad to watch a relationship fall apart that could easily be saved with a little willingness. I encourage all I work with to do everything possible first before making a decision to walk away. After all, walking away never resolves the issues; it only guarantees these unresolved issues will be taken into their next relationship.

 

Acclaimed as the Best Relationship & Life Coach and Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW,  FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post. Bree has a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with individuals and couples.

Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer provides relationship help books online and free relationship help online.

For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/

 

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