Going through a breakup is rarely easy. There are feelings to deal with, unresolved issues to address, and the grieving process to go through. The pain a woman feels after her relationship ends ranges from moderate to severe depending on her emotional and physical investment into it. This article is written to help those women who are struggling to get over their break up so they can be free to move forward with their lives.
#1: Always Allow Your Feelings!
It is human nature to want to avoid pain, especially emotional pain. However, when we repress or run from our feelings we are really doing ourselves a grave disservice. Those uncomfortable feelings will ultimately have to be felt and processed through. If not, they will cause physical illness, self-protective walls, and a block in our lives. Therefore, the best prescription is to feel and express your feelings in a healthy way. This means you process through the feelings of sadness, hurt, anger, frustration, and self-pity but do not get stuck in them. Crying, staying in bed, journaling, talking to your support system, or working with a professional all help in this process.
#2 Go Through The Grieving Process!
It is vital to allow the natural grieving process to occur, as that will enable you to move to a healed place. The stages of the grieving process are denial, anger, bargaining, and acceptance. One can go through these stages in any order and can repeat the stages more than once. The important fact here is to stay aware of where you are and honor that stage. The grieving process is a natural innate process that helps humans move past a loss.
#3 Take Accountability!
After a breakup there is a great opportunity, which presents itself that many women miss and that is personal responsibility. This is such an important part of your personal growth for it is the time to look at what you did in the relationship that could have been better. For instance, if you were excessively jealous, too clingy, too aggressive, or did not communicate well this is the time to face it. When a woman has the courage to look at herself with honest eyes and owns her mistakes and weaknesses she becomes empowered to heal and grow.
#4 Rebuild Your Life!
This is the fun part of getting past a breakup! This is the time where you have the opportunity to redefine what it is that you want to experience in your life and your next relationship. This is an empowering time for you for you get to re-write what you want to create and experience. This is the time for you to become better instead of allowing yourself to become bitter!
Considered to be the Best Relationship Coach and Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post. She has a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with individuals and couples.
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