The greatest help any relationship, especially the one with your partner, can have is willingness.
When there is willingness present, most relationship trouble can be addressed, worked on, and healed. Willingness allows the doors of communication to be and remain open as well as for positive changes to occur.
If this is not currently present in your relationship, the easiest way to develop it is through gaining understanding. When we understand the wounded areas and inabilities of the other person, mountains of hurt, pain, anger and resentment can melt away.
For example, if your husband is blaming you for your child’s acting out behaviors, it would be very easy to get angry and attack your husband back. However, if you are able to take the time to gain the understanding of why your husband is acting this way, you could actually bring a positive healing to the relationship.
Ahhh, the age old question: How can I fix my wife or husband?!
The answer? It’s simple! You cannot “fix” anyone. The only person you can change is yourself. I know this is not what you would like to hear but it is the truth.
You can share with your spouse how you feel about their words, actions, or issues but you absolutely cannot “fix” them. The only way anyone can be “fixed” is for the individual to recognize there is a problem and then want to change it.
This includes any problems in the relationship from the tiniest concerns; such as never putting the cap back on the toothpaste tube, to the very largest concerns; such as addictions, depression, or any chronically debilitating issues your spouse may be experiencing.
Being dumped is such a difficult and painful situation for anyone to go through. It is very similar to experiencing a death of someone you care about or love. The major difference is that with a death, there is no choice. In other words, the person who died did not choose to leave you. However, when someone breaks up with you, he or she are literally saying, "I want to live without you!"
In addition, with a death, you are often allowed and encouraged to “grieve and take all the time you need.” After being dumped and losing your relationship or marriage, most often you are encouraged to “let it go, forget about it, and move on with your life” with little to no actual grief time given.
“Why does he make me so angry?” is one of the most popular questions my female clients ask when they are beginning to work on their relationship. In almost every scenario their question is encased with great frustration and resentment.
When women reach a point in their relationships where they feel consistently angered by their partner — even after small transgressions that used to go unnoticed — their reactions often derive from feeling worn out, tired of it all and almost ready to give up.
Unresolved anger greatly affects how one interacts with their partner.
Women who experience this usually cannot understand why they keep reacting to their man the way they do. They often feel as if they have lost control of themselves and their behavior.
Their “out of control” emotions then lead them to feel guilty and badly about themselves. My clients who are in this situation frequently report to me, “I end up acting like such a witch!”
Fortunately, healing angry emotions is simpler than you might think.
1. Taking Personal Responsibility
I help my clients understanding that no one can “make” you angry or feel any other emotion. We always have a choice to react or not react to another's words or actions. In fact, when we blame the other person for making us angry, we are causing great damage to the relationship.
2. Getting To The Core
Many times women think they are angry about one thing but they are actually angry at something much deeper. I help my clients learn how to uncover the real issue of their anger, process it, and heal it so they may have a healthy and lasting relationship.
3. Effective Communication
Good communication is the key to any successful relationship. I teach my clients how to do this with successful communication skills that really work. My clients are amazed at how greatly their relationship changes for the better just by changing the way they speak to their partner.
4. Getting Help
Being angry with your man never feels good, however, staying angry at him is emotionally, psychologically, and physically unhealthy for him and you! The negative feelings compound into layers of anger and resentments that take agreat toll on your overall well-being and relationship.
If you are in this position and want to heal it to have a peaceful and happy relationship simply contact me here I would love to help you!