Thinking of divorce? A Better Alternative!
When your marriage feels like it is filled with burdensome work and misery, it is normal to have thoughts about getting out in order to find your happiness again.
However, as a Relationship Expert, Coach, & Consultant I have witnessed time and again people divorcing only to end up in the same position with their next partner.
Before you take that final step of divorce, stop and get marriage help first. It is far better for you, your spouse, and your children to try everything before walking away.
When I work with a couple facing serious issues in their marriage, I teach them the foundations of rebuilding their marriage, how to fall in love again, and enjoy married life.
Here is what you can expect:
- Letting go of the pain, hurt and resentments.
- Understanding yourself and your partner like never before.
- Being able to receive and give love with one another.
- Finally learning how to talk with one another.
- Reigniting the passion and spark between you again.
- Having a happy and thriving marriage.
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What is the best relationship help advice you can give me Bree?...is a question I am frequently asked by both men and women. To answer this with just a catchy phrase or short reply would not serve anyone well. For that reason, below are key elements to fully answer this famous question!
Love is always the first place to come from with your relationship. When you look for ways to extend your love and give to your partner, more love will be created. Unfortunately, many times people are coming from a place of trying to "get" something from their partner. This "getting" can be a sense of validation, feelings of worthiness, affection, sex, money, etc. Anytime, we as humans lead with "getting" from another, it will always end in pain and disappointment. However, looking for ways to show and express your love to your partner opens doors of more love between you.
You always have a choice either to judge your partner for things you deem as "wrong" or to seek to understand why he or she said or did something. Coming from a place of understanding eliminates a great deal of unnecessary conflicts in the relationship. When you do this with your partner you are consciously looking to resolve things versus building walls of damage. Although this is a simple decision to make, applying it is key to making it work.
I have many couples come to me who are struggling within their relationship primary due to financial stress. It is by far one of the leading causes of divorce in the United States. Unfortunately, it can tear apart even the best relationships.
If you are wondering if your partner is cheating on you, there are generally two reasons why:
- You have your own personal trust issues that make believing in your partner’s loyalty difficult.
- You have a real reason to be concerned about your partner’s fidelity.
Let’s first focus on your abilty to trust.
Everyone has an inherent ability to trust others with their emotions. Unfortunately, though, life experiences can challenge how easily you trust another person and feel safe letting down your guard. Your ability to trust becomes “trust issues” when you are burdened by negative or harmful childhood experiences or damaging adult relationship experiences. When we go through emotional hardships that damage our trust, overcoming these emotional roadblocks can be difficult.
No matter what current situation in your relationship is testing your trust, the “issue” is located not with your partner but, rather, within you. Because the way we emotionally respond to our partners is usually a reflection of our own emotional state, your reaction to the situation can be a good clue to what deeper issues are at hand.