Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.

The answer to this question is not as difficult as you may think!

In general, women want to feel that you have thought enough about them and your relationship to “do” something. The important word here is "feel." When a woman feels her man really cares about and/or loves her, then romance does not need to be very complicated!

Bringing romance into your relationship does not always have to be a grand gesture or act. In fact, often times it is the little things  that  get your woman feeling all warm and fuzzy!

Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.

A smile filled with delight to see you, a longing wink from across the room, or a little kiss with “I Love You!”… these simple things can make all the difference in your relationship.

Why?

These forms of “acts of love” keep your relationship fresh and intimate on a daily basis as well as helping to protect it from the trappings of daily life. The bills, career demands, house, kids, and all of the daily responsibilities can become the primary focus, leaving your relationship forgotten on the back burner.

As with most things in this life, when we do not put our intention or focus on something, it can cause it to become damaged or to simply fade away. This is true in business as well as our relationships — more specifically for the purpose of this article, our intimate relationship with our partner.

It is easy to shift our focus onto all the “things” which can take our attention away from our partner and leave our relationship vulnerable to damage or simply the loss of it. However, it does not require daily grand gestures of love to keep you and your partner intimately connected. It takes the intention and focus to remember each day to share with your partner in simple little ways how you feel about them and what they mean to you. 

Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.

Before we are able to have more romance, we have to know exactly what it is. The problem with this is that the definition of “romance” can vary from person to person. One woman may feel that getting a dozen red roses is romantic while another woman may feel this is not romantic but predictable. One man may feel that a little love note left in his briefcase from his woman is romantic while another man might find this as a nice but insignificant gesture. To add to this, some people want romance more that others. Stereotypically, it is women who desire it more; however, I have found that many men wish for it as well. 

So with everyone expecting different things when it comes to romance how do you find and then create it in your relationship? 

Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.

More times than not, when starting a relationship, it is as if we bump into one another and unconsciously utter to ourselves, Hmmm, maybe, just maybe this person will make it all better. Consequently, we enter the relationship from a place of perceived lack instead of a place of wholeness.

This place of lack comes in many forms, such as lack of self-worth, fears, insecurities, or feelings of inadequacy. These forms, which often come from our childhoods, can exist in varying degrees and levels. They are created when as a child our individual needs were not met by our parent or parents or if there were any type of abuse or neglect.