Dear "Laura,"

I have found that this happens more often than not due to all the little things which go unaddressed and then build up over time causing emotional distance, resentments, and a break down in the foundation of the relationship.

Most couples do not see it coming because

Dear "Feeling Alone"

It is great you are aware that you do not want to pick the same type of partner. This is actually a very common dynamic, which occurs because we believe that if we just change partners everything will be all better. However, until we address the core issues about what is really going on within ourselves, we will continue to pick the same type of person.

I want to encourage you that right now you are actually in a great place!  You are working with a therapist and

Dear Elle Mae,

You bring up a great question!  I talk a lot about this dynamic in It's That Simple! for men and for women because it is such a common trap for most couples.  The first step is coming to an understanding of how you personally feel and express love.  The second step

Dear "Deeply Hurt,"

First, let me start by saying that I understand how the type of behavior your husband exhibits can hurt you so deeply.  The behavior you describe is very disrespectful to you as a woman and as a wife.  If you have communicated to him how you feel and how it negatively affects you, there is nothing more you can do on his end.  However, there is something you can do on your end.  You see, we teach people how to treat us through our words, attitudes, and behaviors.  If this behavior is so painful and hurtful to you, realizing that you do have a choice to accept it or not is the first step.  I am not saying you must leave the marriage but I am suggesting that you set your boundaries with your husband.  For instance,