Being in an emotionally and physically mature relationship there is never a time when it is appropriate to "test" our partner. The act of testing our partner is a personal red flag. This usually means that we have trust or intimacy issues that we are bringing into the relationship. These types of issues will not be resolved by testing our partner. In fact,
You always have the "right" to your feelings. Let me start by sharing that it is very normal to feel hurt, angry, betrayed, and disrespected when our partner cheats on us, even if it is with the same sex. It is important that you honor your feelings and then make decisions about your relationship. Can this be worked through? Sure, as long as
So many of us women make the mistake of trying to talk to the man in our lives as if he is our girlfriend. We want him to understand what we are thinking and more importantly what we are feeling. Most men do not want to shift through all of our feelings to hear what is going on with us. They just want us to be happy and when we are not, they want to fix it for us.
. . . but now that we are not together I feel like I still love him. Should I go back into a relationship with him or am I just feeling that way because the relationship is over? Tasisa
It is human nature to "romanticize" a relationship when it is over. Often, we will only remember the good parts and forget what actually got us to the end of the relationship. In your case, I would suggest getting really honest with yourself and becoming clear on what kind of relationship you would like to have and then decide if this kind of relationship is possible with your former boyfriend. You mentioned not being able to communicate with him.