Relationship Help Advice For Women: How To Get Your Man To Listen To You!
One of the main complaints I hear from women is that their man does not listen. Women have a hard time understanding why this is. Unfortunately because of this they end up doing thins that cause damage in their relationship. Below are my relationship help advice tips for women when it comes to getting your man to listen:
To begin, men and women are different and communicate differently! This must be fully understood by a woman in a relationship with a man. When a woman tries to communicate with her man as if she is speaking with another woman it will never work!
We as women are taught how to communicate our thoughts and feelings from the time we are very young. In fact, we are encouraged to do so. However, men are not given this same opportunity and are often inept in the communication department.
When you want your man to hear you be sure to communicate in a way he understands. For instance, if he is into sports, cars, finances, or hunting use metaphors he can relate too. For example, if he is into football you can use terms like, “I like being on the same team with you” or “Wow you really made a touchdown with my birthday gift I love it!” This may sound too simple to work but it does!
If you have a specific point you want to make be clear and concise in your speaking. For instance, if you want your man to take out the trash on every Tuesday be sure to say only that and leave it alone. “Honey, can you please be sure to take out the trash Tuesday morning?” If you hit him with too many things at once he will shut down and you will feel unheard.
Always use your “I” statements and never use your “you” blame statements. This again sounds too simple to be true but it is. In fact, many women have a hard time doing this because they are so use to speaking their feelings with blaming statements. For example, “you never listen to me and take out the trash!” versus “I feel hurt when I ask for help and it is not followed through on.”
Your man wants to make you happy. Therefore, if you speak to him from an “I” place his defenses will not come up. He will be much more open to hearing how you feel than being badgered with blame or shame statements.
Finally, as hard as this can be for women never, ever, ever, nag your man! If you set up a communication pattern of always nagging he will immediately tune you out and not hear anything you are saying-even if it is positive!
To avoid nagging, be clear, concise and use your “I” feeling statements. If this does not work, then it is time to reach out for help from a professional.
I often work with couples who need just a few sessions to learn how to effectively communicate with one another. The best relationships have great communication. However, any relationship can learn how!
Acclaimed Relationship & Life Coach Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. holds a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling, has over fifteen years of clinical experience working with individuals and couples, and has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
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