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Dating Help For Women
As a national relationship expert, one of the most common complaints I hear from women today about dating relationships is how hard it is to find a “nice guy. “ They say things like; “They all cheat,” “none of them will commit,” and “they just want sex.” In order to help woman out in the dating world, I have come up with these five tell tale signs to look for when starting to date a guy in a new relationship. This relationship information may be shocking to you and since, in this life, there are always exceptions; try to take the concept of each warning sign and apply it in your dating life rather than using it as a simple checklist.
If he pushes for sex too quickly-RUN!
All men want sex, they are men and that is a fact. Depending on their religious beliefs, character, morals, values or lack thereof is what separates them out. A good man will desire you immediately but he is not going to push for sex or make sex the primary goal of the relationship. If he does, that is all he is interested in. A good man is willing to wait for a woman whom he is truly interested in being in a real relationship and/or marriage with.
If he does not consistently pursue you -RUN!
A good man, who is interested in you, who wants to be in a real relationship will make that happen. He will pursue you without you having to do any of the pursuit. That is how you will know he is truly interested in you. A man pursuing a woman will stay in touch daily and make plans to see her often. If a man is in touch one day and out the next it is because he has you on a rotation with other women in his life. If you want to be a man’s primary pursuit let him pursue you, if he does not, he is just not that interested in you.
If he gets you to do all the talking -RUN!
This is a difficult one for us women, since we naturally want to talk in order to connect emotionally. The key sign here is when he asks you all about you, your life, your family, career, etc without sharing much of his own. When a man does this, he is listening for your vulnerabilities to play on. A good man, on the other hand, will want to share all about himself and his life in detail with you. There will not be vague answers or mystery surrounding him and his life, there will be transparency.
If he introduces you to his friends and/or family as his “friend” -RUN!
In the beginning of a relationship is can be very awkward as to how to begin introducing each other in public. However, if he uses the word “friend,” get out! He does not consider you his girlfriend and is letting you know that up front. A good man who is unsure as to how to introduce you, will ask you or simply state your name when making introductions. When a man uses the word “friend” he is letting you and the world know that is all you are to him, even if you just slept with him last night.
If he keeps trying to find things wrong with you because you are “so great” -RUN!
If a good man finds you intriguing and “so different from all the rest.” He is going to be seeking out all the good in you. He will delight in every new little nuance he discovers in you. If a man tells you how amazing you are but then looks to find out what is wrong with you, he is looking for something to hang his hat on so he can convince himself you are not what he is really looking for. This has nothing to do with you at all. He is simply not ready to commit, has intimacy issues, or is still broken from his past.
All of these are clear signs that something is not right with him or your new relationship. Observe him, watch his actions, and listen to your God-given intuition. A woman’s intuition is not a joke, or something made up in our heads. It is real, trust it, it is there to help you avoid the wrong guys so the right one can come into your life.
Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. is a Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert, Acclaimed Life & Relationship Coach, and Author of the relationship and self-help books It’s That Simple! for men & women.
Bree has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
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