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I am often asked if online dating really is a good way to find someone. My answer is Yes! just as long as you know what you are doing and keep a streamlined focus.
Here are some of my favorite tips for dating online and finding love…
Know exactly what you want in a partner and do not settle nor compromise on these things ever. A good place to start is to write a simple list of all the qualities you would like in your online match. From there, rank these from number one through number ten. Next, take your top five and write those qualities or characteristics out specifically in your profile paragraph. Take the remaining sixth through tenth and sprinkle those through your answers to the profile questions. Finally, know for sure your top three deal breakers. For most people these can include lifestyle choices, relationship goals, and wanting children or not. Stick to your deal breakers no matter how good the online profile you are viewing may seem.
This is very simple…state who you really are, what you are looking for in a relationship, and share current, real-to-life photos of yourself. One of the biggest complaints I hear is that people put pictures of themselves when they were much younger or photos that no longer represent how they look now. The gig is up! If the person is attracted to your photo and you show up not looking as good as or better than your photo(s)-they will not be happy!
Whether you are a man or a woman online dating requires you to use good common sense and put in some safety nets. I recommend emailing back and forth for at least four or five times exchanging questions and answers. If this correspondence goes well, then go ahead and speak on the phone. If you like what you hear and wish to meet in person, be sure to exchange full names (search them online to find out all you can), tell someone who you are meeting and where, and then agree to meet in a very public place. Never give someone your personal address, have them meet you at your house, or in a secluded area-regardless of how great they seem.
So you make it to your first online dating date…have fun! Go into the date with a light-hearted attitude that you will meet someone new that may or may not be the one but you are going to have a good time no matter what. Stay on light conversations being sure not spill your entire life story out on your first date. The bottom line is that relationships take time, so take yours and enjoy.
Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. is a Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert, Acclaimed Life & Relationship Coach, and Author of the relationship and self-help books It’s That Simple! for men & women.
Bree has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
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