Monthly Archives: December 2012
Help For Questions About Relationships!
As a relationship expert and coach I am often asked for help with questions about relationships. The most common topics can be categorized under communication, sex and intimacy, arguing, and infidelity.
Here are some of the most common relationship questions and answers:
Bree’s Relationship Help #1:
Effective Communication
Question: Why does my husband not listen to me?
Answer: Men and women communicate differently. Not because one is right and one is wrong but because we are different. Men need straightforward communication while women need to have processing communication. This creates a great deal of problems in relationships when each partner is not aware of this and how to get around it.
In the It’s That Simple! Relationship book for men and It’s That Simple! Relationship book for women there is an entire chapter dedicated to teaching both men and women how to effectively communicate with their partner. The reader learns how to communicate with the opposite sex in a way that really works!
Bree’s Relationship Help #2:
A Healthy Sex Life
Question: Why does my wife never want to have sex with me?
Answer: Believe it or not, this is one of the top questions I receive from men about their wives. The answer can have to do with how she is feeling emotionally, physically, or mentally as well as the man’s approach to his wife to initiate sex.
For a more detailed answer to the question please click here.
Bree’s Relationship Help #3:
Conflict Resolution
Question: How can we stop fighting?
Answer: In order to stop fighting the core issues must be identified, addressed, and healed. In most cases what the couple is fighting over is not what the issue(s) is truly about.
Getting to the core of what the real issue is vital in conflict resolution. Once this is accomplished, the couple must learn how to move through a disagreement to a solution that is mutually satisfying.
I work with couples all of the time with this skill because of the fact that so many people were never taught how to do this. Once a couple has and applies these skills, they stop fighting and start communicating to a happy resolution!
Bree’s Relationship Help #4:
Cheating
Question: Can we heal from an infidelity?
Answer: Absolutely yes! A couple can heal from an infidelity as look as they are both willing to do the healing work to get passed it.
I am not going to say this process is easy for it is not. It takes patience, willingness, and love to repair the damage an infidelity causes.
However, it can be done!
How do I know?
Because I successfully work with couples to teach them how to heal and then build a strong, healthy, and happy relationship.
Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert, Acclaimed Life & Relationship Coach, & Author of the relationship help books It’s That Simple! for men and women Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
Relationship Help Book For Couples
It’s That Simple! Relationship Help Book
For Men & For Women
If you are facing problems in your relationship and need help the great news is you have found it! Everything you need to know to heal and transform your relationship is in It’s That Simple!
After years of counseling men and women I absolutely knew I had to write a separate book for men and women!
Why?
Primarily because men and women are so very different in the way we think, feel, process and apply information. Due to this fact, I wanted to provide men the help they needed and women the help they needed to have the best relationship they could.
Everyone is well aware of the fact that communication is key in a healthy relationship. However, most do not understand that unless a man and woman know how to communicate effectively with one another they will face multilevel of difficulties in their relationship.
You can have the deepest love along with the best intentions, however, if you do not know how to effectively get your message across to your partner and how to listen to your partner the relationship will have problems.
In the It’s That Simple! Relationship Help Book For Men & For Women you will learn:
- How To Communicate In A Way That Really Works!
- How To Build A Healthy Relationship!
- How To Heal Old Wounds That Are Harming Your Relationship!
- How To Create A Deeper & Stronger Bond!
- How To Have A Great Emotional & Physical Intimacy!
- How To Change Negative Thinking That Is Hurting Your Relationship!
- How To Fully Understand Your Partner & Their Desires From You!
- How To Discover, Accept, & Love Your Partner & Self In A Whole New Way!
Being in a relationship that is not working is extremely painful and damaging to your emotional, physical, and mental well-being, therefore, it is very important to heal the problems as quickly as possible.
If you need more relationship help you can work with me directly. Learn more here
Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert, Acclaimed Life & Relationship Coach, & Author of the relationship help books It’s That Simple! for men and women Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
Relationship Help Advice For Women!
Relationship Help Advice Just For Women!
The major complaint I hear from women in a relationship or marriage is “He doesn’t understand me!” They ask for relationship help after complaining in great detail of how their man does and says things to solidify that he does not know who she is. Although the stories have different people in them, the story line remains the same—she wants to feel heard and understood and he does not deliver it.
Why do so many women have the same complaint?
The best way I can simplify it is to say, “Men and women are different!” The way women feel, think, and process information is not the same as a man. Hence, this leaves a void that must be bridged in order for people to have a successful relationship!
Although it is common for men not to ask for relationship help, they are and do! The number of men seeking my help with their relationship is now surpassing the number of women!
I am sharing this with you because I want you to recognize that men today want to understand their woman and how to make her happy. They are reaching out for help and asking for the answers they need. This is an incredible shift and positive news for relationships!
To keep this short and sweet, the best relationship help I can give in this particular area is for you to encourage your man to do one or both of these things…
One, read It’s That Simple! A Man’s Book on Relationships, Life, Ourselves and The Healing of It All. He will learn an incredible amount of information and guidance on how to understand you and make your relationship work. Don’t worry that he will not want to, men are buying this book as fast as women are buying It’s That Simple! A Woman’s Book on Relationships, Life, Ourselves and The Healing of It All.
Second, is to work with me directly via phone sessions. Your man will learn the precise relationship tools he needs to help your relationship thrive. In fact, once he has learned how to apply some of these skills, I will bring you into the sessions to ensure your relationship gets all the help it needs to be incredibly successful!
You can call me at 772-223-85747 or reach me here.
Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert & Acclaimed Life & Relationship Coach Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
Relationship Help Advice For Men!
Relationship Help Advice Just For Men!
You would not believe how many good men come to me for help with their relationship because their girlfriend or wife keeps telling them they are doing things wrong.
I will tell you these men have no intention of hurting their woman’s feelings or messing up the relationship at all. In fact, more times than not, their goal is to “make her happy!”
So how can a good man with the right intentions end up upsetting his woman time and again?
It’s simple! He does not understand what she is looking for from him or their relationship. He continues to try everything he knows to make her happy but it continually fails.
This is usually the time a man will come to me—when his woman is angry, he is frustrated and knows he needs help to save his relationship.
So what do I do to help him you may be wondering.
First of all, I guide him through the workings of a woman’s mind. I do this so he can immediately start putting the pieces together with his woman. This information gives him the clarity of what she says and does the things she does. Normally where he would be left scratching his head he now understand what she needs and how to deliver it.
The next thing I do is help him learn effective relationship skills. This covers everything from communication to sex. Yes, even sex! There are so many men that have no idea what a woman wants in the bedroom, which ultimately creates problems in their relationship.
If you are one of these good guys who is not sure what to do to make it better, then you have found the relationship help you need!
Reach me by calling 772-223-8747 or by filling out this form.
Together we will get your relationship back on track and thriving!
Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert & Acclaimed Life & Relationship Coach Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
How To Survive An Affair: Relationship Help From Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.
If you are reading this chances are it means you have cheated or been cheated on. In either case, there is inevitably an incredible amount of pain and heartache you are dealing with.
I want to let you know that you can survive an affair, it is possible! However, I will not sugar coat this and tell you it is an easy road because it is not.
Relationship Help From Expert Bree #1:
Time!
The process of healing from an affair takes time. There is no set formula of how long as it depends on the individuals involved. Some can move through it more quickly than others. They are the ones who have the right attitude and patience to go through the entire healing journey.
Relationship Help From Expert Bree #2:
Commitment!
It may seem counter intuitive to mention the word commitment in the same breath as an affair but that is what it takes to survive an affair. When there is a devotion to the relationship healing it can!
Many people will ask me what type of commitment are you talking about here Bree? The commitment entails both parties the cheater and cheated on to agree to participate in the healing process for a certain length of time to achieve a healed relationship. This may seem like a no brainer but making this conscious and mutual commitment is a vital part of the process.
Relationship Help From Expert Bree #3:
Tools & Recovery!
In order to survive an affair the couple must have the precise relationship tools they need to rebuild their relationship. Although there are standard tools I teach with every couple especially when it comes to communication, each couple is unique in what their relationship specifically needs.
Together we work as a team and I guide you both through the healing process together. Again, I want to reiterate this takes work but if you both do what it takes you can get through an affair.
In fact, the couples I work with who go all the way through the healing process end up stronger, closer, and more in love than before the affair!
I know you and your partner are in pain but there is hope and a way to get through this! You can call for an appointment at
772-223-8747 or reach me here.
Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert & Acclaimed Life & Relationship Coach Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
Need Help Staying Together? Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. Helps!
Couples will naturally pass through many different phases or developmental stages during the course of the relationship. In the beginning there is excitement and hope that their new relationship will be lasting. Nevertheless, many of these wide-eyed couples break up due to one fact—they do not possess effective relationship skills.
In order to have a successful relationship you must be able to communicate effectively, work through problems that arise, and grow together with mutual support, respect, and love. In addition a couple also needs…
Relationship Expert Bree Helps #1:
The Goal!
It is vital to remember the goal, which is to have a lasting healthy and happy relationship! Frequently, after the honeymoon wears off, this goal is lost and replaced with dynamics that harm the relationship.
As with any sport, when you take your eye off the ball so to speak, and do not work as a team you will lose the game. It is the same concept with a relationship. A couple must be able to work together towards attaining the mutual goal of happily staying together.
Relationship Expert Bree Helps #2:
Enjoy!
It is true that relationships take compromise and work, however, there needs to be a great deal of fun that goes along with that!
Doing things that bring you enjoyment is another vital element for a successful relationship. This creates good feelings and a deeper bond for the couple. Even though the economy is very tough on a many today, there are all sorts of free ways to have fun together! Getting creative and making it a priority is a must!
Relationship Expert Bree Helps #3:
Sex!
Yes, physical intimacy is of the utmost importance in a healthy relationship. However, this does not mean only sexual intercourse; it encompassed the whole spectrum of physical intimacy from hand holding to caressing to orgasms.
Actually, this is one of the top reasons couples come to me for help because they have allowed this part of their relationship to slip away.
I love working with men and women helping them build the relationship of their dreams. The best part of my job is seeing the success results of another couple who is happy together!
If you would like to work with me you can learn more about what I do here or contact me here.
Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert & Acclaimed Life & Relationship Coach Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
How To Save My Marriage! Relationship Help From Expert Bree
Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.
Marriage can be healthy and beautiful or dysfunctional and extremely painful!
Chances are if you are reading this article your marriage is in need of some help.
I work with couples to help them to not only save their marriage but transform it so they can experience a happy and fulfilling life together.
What does this take?
Well, I am not going to sugar coat this and say it is a walk in the park because it is not!
It takes willingness, commitment, patience, love, and the right tools to transform a failing marriage into a successful one.
When you work directly with me you will learn the following:
Relationship Help #1:
Effective Communication Skills!
Yes it is true….being able to communicate properly is number one in repairing a marriage. I know that might sound cliché but it is a fact. A couple must be able to share with one another what it is that they are thinking and feeling. The sad fact is, however, many men and women have no idea how to communicate effectively because they were never taught how.
How can a person do something if they were never taught how to do it?
They cannot, it is impossible. Therefore, the first step is teaching you how to identify your thoughts and feelings and then share them with your spouse in a way he or she can fully understand. The key word here is “understand.” We can talk ‘at’ someone until we are blue in the face or we can communicate ‘with’ another so they comprehend the message we are conveying.
Relationship Help #2:
Conflict Resolution Skills!
I will let you in on a little secret every couple fights. If they tell you they do not they are lying or are not having an authentic relationship.
This is not to say that the fights need to be the knockdown drag out kind, in fact, if continued over time those are very damaging to a marriage. However, it is to say that having different opinions, perspectives, and desires of outcome do exist in a healthy marriage.
The key is to know how to avoid the fighting and move through conflict to a mutually satisfying solution.
This can be done when you have the right skills. Again, most people are not taught how to resolve a conflict. Rather they are strictly motivated to prove their point and win the argument, believing that will stop the fight. Ironically, that is exactly what fuels the fire for an argument.
Relationship Help #3:
How To Let Go & Forgive!
When a marriage needs to be fixed learning how to let go of old resentments and find forgiveness is vital.
This step is often met with resistance because many men and women believe that forgiveness means accepting bad behavior. That is absolutely no the case at all.
To forgive means simply that you are choosing to stop condemning and judging another person and forgiving them their mistakes. It does not mean you accept behaviors that are damaging, harmful or abusive in any way.
To have a successful marriage does not mean each person is a punching bag or door mat for the other but it does mean when a mistake is made it is worked through, healed and forgiven.
When couples hold onto resentments there is no possible way forgiveness can occur. Letting go is hard for many but with the right perspective and guidance it can be done.
Relationship Help #4:
How To Rebuild the Emotional & Physical Intimacy!
This is the most fun part of rebuilding your marriage. When I work with you I will teach you how to get close again not just for the sole reason to have sex again but to fall in love again.
You learn how to rediscover yourself and each other on a deep level. You will learn how to enjoy and have fun together again!
The couples I work with love this part because it is brings back the wonderful feelings they once had for one another.
If you are typing into an internet search “How to save my marriage” I hope this information has been helpful to you. If you would like to work with me you can do so from the comfort of your own home or office as I see clients all over the country by telephone sessions.
You can learn more here or request to work with me by filling out this form. I look forward to helping you!
Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert & Relationship Coach Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
Relationship Help Tips From Expert Bree To Avoid Fighting!
Relationship Help
From Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.
Couples fight over many different things that include money, hurt feelings, parenting styles, mis-communications, and sex. However, if you understand why fighting occurs in the first place, then that is the best way to avoid it!
Relationship Help Tips From Expert Bree #1:
Not Feeling Heard!
One of the top reasons a couple will fight is because one or both partners feels as if the other is not listening. This “not listening” translates on a deeper level to not feeling heard, validated, and understood.
For Example: A wife says to her husband, “Honey, I would like to go on a date night Saturday night because we haven’t had much alone time lately.” The husband replies, “We don’t need a date night and besides we don’t have the money for that anyways!”
She was trying to communicate that she wanted to connect with her husband but all he heard was the money it would cost. He had no idea what she was really saying. Unfortunately this type of communication would most likely lead to a fight.
Relationship Help Tips From Expert Bree #2:
Miscommunications!
Another reason men and women will fight is because what they meant to say or tried to say did not come across well.
This may seem like common sense but it often happens that the feelings of being insulted ignite before the other person can explain what they really meant.
For Example: A wife asks her husband, “Does my butt look fat in these jeans?” The husband replies to his wife, “No, honey your butt does not look fat in those jeans why do you always ask me that?”
What she hears is, “stop bothering me!” Of course, what he really meant is, “you always look great I don’t understand why you don’t know that.”
Relationship Help Tips From Expert Bree #3:
Listen! Listen! Listen!
The importance of listening is extremely vital in any healthy relationship, especially the one with your partner.
The ability to listen and hear what your partner is telling you is not a skill many people posses. In fact, most people have to learn effective communication skills because they were never taught them.
There is an entire chapter with step-by-step instructions on how to communicate with your partner in the:
It’s That Simple! Relationship Help Book Just for Men
&
It’s That Simple! Relationship Help Book for Women
If you were not brought up by parents who had the most perfect marriage and taught you how to communicate and have a healthy relationship then you are in the majority!!!!
Most men and women are lost when it comes to building and keeping a relationship healthy and strong. However, once they have the right information and tools they can do it!
I highly recommend anyone having relationship problems to read It’s That Simple!
Relationship Help Tips From Expert Bree #4:
Take A Breath!
Many fights occur because once the human emotion of anger begins, it is hard to turn back and stay civil. Therefore, if you choose to breath, stay calm, and ask for clarification before reacting you will avoid unnecessary fighting.
Again, this may sound like common sense but it takes hard work to accomplish this. You must be conscious of your thoughts and behaviors in order to not to react to something your partner says or does that upsets you.
However, it is worth the work! If you use this breathing tool you will see an absolute decrease in your negative reactions to your partner.
If you need more relationship help you can work with me one-on-one vie phone sessions. Click here to learn more.
Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert & Relationship Coach Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
Help To Heal A Relationship!
Relationship Help!
If your relationship has been damaged or torn apart and you want to put it back together, you can!
Healing a relationship is very possible. The reason so many couples cannot heal is not because they are not meant to be together but simply because they do not have the right tools and guidance to do so.
In most cases, both the man and woman will try everything they know to do with one another but it is never enough.
Why?
Because they are communicating and expressing their love in their own language and not in their partner’s language.
Men and women have vital differences that must be understood. More specifically, the ways in which we think, feel, and communicate.
The irony in this is that most people do not recognize the problems that are caused simply by the differences in men and women.
That is the primary reason I wrote the It’s That Simple! relationship help books for both men and women.
After working with couples for years, I knew the only way to heal a relationship was to understand this and change the way men and women interact and speak with one another.
If your relationship has suffered with:
- Poor Communication
- Unresolved Resentments
- Parenting Style Differences
- Fighting
- Loss of Intimacy
- Lack of Passion
- Infidelity
There is hope!
I work with couples all over the United States via phone or Skype sessions to heal their relationship. To learn more on how I can help you click here.
If are ready to get the help you need to save, heal, and transform your relationship contact me here now.
Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert & Relationship Coach Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
How To Heal A Relationship!
Relationship Help From Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.
If you, like millions of others, are struggling with your relationship I want you to know there is hope!
Most relationship problems exist because of one simple reason… the person does not possess the tools necessary to have a healthy relationship.
This does not mean the person is “bad” or incapable of having a great relationship, it just means they do not have the proper information and skill set yet.
“Yet” is the key word here for it suggests that the person can learn what they need to know.
There are some exceptions to this, which include if someone is actively suffering with an addiction, has mental illness, or a personality disorder.
In these situations the person would have to receive professional psychological and/or psychiatric care first.
You may be wondering what the top skills are necessary to heal a relationship…here they are:
- Effective Communication Skills
This is the ability to share, listen, and move through a conversation with the intended message exchanged.
- Conflict Resolution Skills
This entails having the know how to avoid unnecessary arguments and move through disagreements with a solution attained.
- Emotional Intimacy Skills
To be emotionally intimate requires one to be open and expressive with their thoughts, ides, fears, dreams, and feelings with their partner.
- Physical Intimacy Skills
This entails not just sexual intercourse but also includes the ability to give and receive through physical touch with your partner.
- Willingness To Forgive
The ability to forgive always begins with the willingness to do so. When someone is open to forgive their partner for their mistakes, they are more likely able to forgive and move on rather than building resentments and damage their relationship.
I work with both men and women helping them heal their relationship. I have helped couples, who were on the brink of divorce with little hope left, find their way back to loving one another again.
If you would like to work with me one-on-one you can learn more here!
Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert & Relationship Coach Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/