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Relationship Help For Women

5 Tell Tale Signs You Need To Run From Him Now!

 

Relationship Help & Advice For Stress

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dating Help For Women

As a national relationship expert, one of the most common complaints I hear from women today about dating relationships is how hard it is to find a “nice guy. “ They say things like; “They all cheat,” “none of them will commit,”  and “they just want sex.”  In order to help woman out in the dating world, I have come up with these five tell tale signs to look for when starting to date a guy in a new relationship. This relationship information may be shocking to you and since, in this life, there are always exceptions; try to take the concept of each warning sign and apply it in your dating life rather than using it as a simple checklist.

 

#1 Dating Help For Women:

If he pushes for sex too quickly-RUN!

All men want sex, they are men and that is a fact. Depending on their religious beliefs, character, morals, values or lack thereof is what separates them out. A good man will desire you immediately but he is not going to push for sex or make sex the primary goal of the relationship. If he does, that is all he is interested in.  A good man is willing to wait for a woman whom he is truly interested in being in a real relationship and/or marriage with.

 

#2 Dating Help For Women:

If he does not consistently pursue you -RUN!

A good man, who is interested in you, who wants to be in a real relationship will make that happen. He will pursue you without you having to do any of the pursuit.  That is how you will know he is truly interested in you. A man pursuing a woman will stay in touch daily and make plans to see her often. If a man is in touch one day and out the next it is because he has you on a rotation with other women in his life. If you want to be a man’s primary pursuit let him pursue you, if he does not, he is just not that interested in you.

 

#3 Dating Help For Women:

If he gets you to do all the talking -RUN!

This is a difficult one for us women, since we naturally want to talk in order to connect emotionally. The key sign here is when he asks you all about you, your life, your family, career, etc without sharing much of his own. When a man does this, he is listening for your vulnerabilities to play on.  A good man, on the other hand, will want to share all about himself and his life in detail with you. There will not be vague answers or mystery surrounding him and his life, there will be transparency.

 

#4 Dating Help For Women:

If he introduces you to his friends and/or family as his “friend” -RUN!

In the beginning of a relationship is can be very awkward as to how to begin introducing each other in public. However, if he uses the word “friend,” get out! He does not consider you his girlfriend and is letting you know that up front.  A good man who is unsure as to how to introduce you, will ask you or simply state your name when making introductions.  When a man uses the word “friend” he is letting you and the world know that is all you are to him, even if you just slept with him last night.

 

#5 Dating Help For Women:

If he keeps trying to find things wrong with you because you are “so great” -RUN!

If a good man finds you intriguing and “so different from all the rest.” He is going to be seeking out all the good in you. He will delight in every new little nuance he discovers in you. If a man tells you how amazing you are but then looks to find out what is wrong with you,  he is looking for something to hang his hat on so he can convince himself you are not what he is really looking for. This has nothing to do with you at all. He is simply not ready to commit, has intimacy issues, or is still broken from his past.

 

All of these are clear signs that something is not right with him or your new relationship. Observe him, watch his actions, and listen to your God-given intuition. A woman’s intuition is not a joke, or something made up in our heads. It is real, trust it, it is there to help you avoid the wrong guys so the right one can come into your life.

 

Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. is a Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert, Acclaimed Life & Relationship Coach, and Author of the relationship and self-help books It’s That Simple! for men & women.

Bree has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW,  FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.

Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over 19 years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer provides relationship help books online and free relationship help online.

For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/

 

Why Does He Call Me A Nag?

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Relationship Help For Women

 

 

Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer

 

 

Frequently, the biggest error a woman makes in her relationship is what men refer to as nagging.  The relationship problems that stem from this are simply because a woman does not consider it nagging and the man does.

 

When a woman looks to her partner to get something accomplished she will request that of him. Generally what occurs next is that the man categorizes and files it in his brain as a “need to do it immediately task” or “this can wait, I will get to it task.”

 

However, he does not communicate this to her and she believes it will be taken care of immediately. When this does not happen she will ask repeatedly until she becomes angry and frustrated with him. Do you recognize this dynamic within your relationship?

 

If so, there is hope! Below are relationship help advice tips to help solve this problem.

 

Relationship Help Tip #1:

 

Pay Attention!

That means to listen to your partner.  Instead of “hearing” what you want to hear, pay attention to what he is telling you. Is he stressed at work? Is he overwhelmed with home projects? Are the kids draining his energy?

 

Relationship Help Tip #2:

 

Take Action!

By taking a proactive stance with her listening skills, a woman can change this common relationship problem in no time.

 

What do I mean by this? It’s simple, instead of listening for what you want to hear, you become objective and listen to what he is actually telling you.

 

For example, if he is in the middle of a massive project at work and under a tremendous amount of stress, not asking him to fix the garage door until he is on more stable ground takes care of it.

 

The paradoxical part of this relationship problem is when effective communication skills are used it never exists.

 

Relationship Help Tip #3:

 

Change It!

I can help you with your relationship either by suggesting you read It’s That Simple! A Woman’s Book On Relationships, Life, Ourselves And The Healing Of It All or suggest you reach out to work with me one-on-one.

 

In the book you will learn incredible  relationship help tools, information, and practical skills to apply to your life and relationship that will create unbelievable positive changes for you.

 

If you would like more personal attention, I will join with you and help you each step of the way to making your relationship better then ever before.   Please feel free to reach me here. I look forward to hearing from you!

 

 

Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer provides relationship help books online and free relationship help online.

For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/

My Husband Makes Me Feel Bad About Myself!

 

 

 

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Relationship Help For Women

 

Sadly the phrase, “My Husband Makes Me Feel Bad About Myself” is one of the top searched by married women looking for help with their relationship on my site.

 

The fact is that countless women are quietly suffering everyday in their marriage.  How they feel about themselves and their ability to show up in all the other areas of their life is negatively impacted.  Their capacity to lovingly mother their children, efficiently perform daily activities, and successfully perform on the job becomes more and more difficult as their marital problems increase.

 

They look for immediate solutions hoping something will ease their pain and help their relationship problems. The professional coaching I provide gives woman an alternative to marriage counseling and provides these woman with the ability to…

 

Relationship Help For Women

 

  1. Build A Healthy Self-Esteem So She Can Feel Good About Herself!
  2. Learn How To Take Care of Herself Emotionally, Physically, & Spiritually So She Is Not Depleted!
  3. Learn How To Set Healthy Boundaries With Her Husband, Children & All Relationships In Her Life To     Honor Herself!
  4. Learn How To Communicate With Her Husband So They Can Successfully Work Through Their Issues!
  5. Learn How To Peacefully Transition To A New Life If She Is Done With Her Marriage!
  6. Learn How To Be Happy & Create A Positive Fulfilling Life!

 

 

When a woman is struggling with a husband that demeans her and creates feelings of inadequacy, she can feel very alone in the world. She may be embarrassed to share what is going on in her relationship with friends and family so she carries this burden all by herself.

 

It is a painful and difficult experience but the good news is that it does not have to be. There is help and answers.

I have helped women in this situation for over fifteen years and I can help you too.

Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.

Simply contact me here 

I will join with you and guide you every step of the way.

You can feel and be happy again!

 

 

Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer provides relationship help books online and free relationship help online.

For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/

Why Men Throw Away Great Women!

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Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.

 

She has everything he is looking for; she is beautiful, smart, sexy, funny, successful, great to be with, and treats him like gold!!! She is the whole package, every man’s dream. As their relationship begins to develop they have great fun and laugh together, have great chemistry for one another, and even introduce their friends and family to one another. Everything is moving along well with an incredible future together on the horizon. Then a slight hiccup occurs and he runs away leaving her shocked, confused and extremely hurt.

 

Then she comes to me for relationship help asking, “Why did this happen? What did I do wrong? I thought he was falling in love with me? I never saw this coming…what did I miss? ”

 

The answers for her and all other amazing women who find themselves in this position can be simply narrowed down into these following few categories.

 

 

Relationship Help For Women #1:

 

Inadequacy!

 

Even though he may come across strong and confident, deep down inside he does not feel that ultimately he is enough to make her happy.

 

For instance, he may feel he is not good looking or in shape enough for her, he may feel his penis is not large enough, he may even feel that his receding or thinning hair will turn her off one day. Perhaps he is worried he is not successful enough or that what he makes financially will not be enough to provide for them as a couple or family.

 

Most of the time, these things are greatly hidden from the woman he is involved with and in many cases from himself. Yes! Often a man is unaware of these insecurities about himself until he meets and starts falling for a woman who is incredible.

 

Unfortunately, instead of looking at these areas of insecurity in himself as an opportunity to grow and evolve as a man, he runs away.  He generally will find a woman that is less intimidating for him so that he does not have to look at himself but can feel good around another woman who has less going for her.

 

Sadly, she is left having to guess what went wrong in the relationship and frequently starts blaming herself.

 

 

Relationship Help For Women #2:

 

Emotionally Closed!

 

He may be incredibly affectionate, communicate about his daily life, and appear to be listening as she shares deeper parts of herself with him but he is emotionally shut down.

 

What does this mean exactly?

 

Somewhere along his life, whether in childhood or adulthood, he experienced something that created the need for a protective wall to be built around him. Whether it was never feeling he lived up to his father’s expectations, some type of abuse, or being stuck in a miserable marriage,  the coping mechanism he developed was to turn off his feelings so he could be ok in the situation.

 

As with all coping mechanisms, they serve a purpose at the time. However, can end up causing harm down the road when not let go of after the initiating experience is over.

 

In the case of a man being emotionally closed, his ability to not feel or at least to not feel things deeply served him well. Yet, when it comes to allowing real love and a great relationship with an incredible woman, it does not serve him well at all. In fact it makes him bail.

 

You see, once he starts falling in love, these strong feelings for her trigger a fear and ignite his once useful coping mechanism. In other words, a warning signal or “mayday” message is sent to his brain causing him to pull back and then find reasons to throw her away. In almost every case, he is dong this on an unconscious level and has no idea what is happening.

 

He most likely will find a woman to have a casual “friends with benefits” relationship with so that he does not have to face nor deal with any strong feelings for her.

 

Again, this is sadly another missed opportunity for personal growth and to chance to experience real love.

 

 

Relationship Help For Women #3:

 

Bad Timing!

 

Yes, there is such thing as bad timing when it comes to relationships. You can have two wonderful people who would be great together, but the timing just is not right.

 

In this case, he is not necessarily throwing her away, he is passing on her, all she has to offer him, and a relationship because he is not ready.

 

The most common time this happens is when he is freshly out of a broken relationship or divorce. He may want the companionship and love but just in not healed from his relationship or marriage.

 

An honorable man recognizes this in himself and tells the woman know right up front or as soon as he himself figures it out.

The problem that arises is that the woman does not hear him or want to hear what he is saying and hangs in there hoping he will come around.  When this dynamic happens in relationships, more times than not he will eventually throw her away as a level of respect needed for a successful relationship has been lost.

 

 

Relationship Help For Women

 

 

Learning that the great guy you thought was going to be “the one” falls into one or more of these categories may not end your pain but it does give you an understanding of what may have happened.

 

If you need more answers or guidance I would love to help you!

Reach me here and we will get started on healing the pain and attracting the right man for you!

 

 

 

Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer provides relationship help books online and free relationship help online.

For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/

Relationship Help Advice For Women: Stop Nagging Start Listening!

 

 

Important Relationship Help Advice For Women!

 

I love working with women helping them understand their man and fix their relationship. One of the most common mistakes women make that creates relationship problems is “nagging” their man. I put the word nagging in quotation marks because for a woman she does not consider it nagging but for a man  he does.

 

To further explain; when a woman wants her man to do something what does she do? Generally, she will ask him to do it. Now, what happens when he forgets, puts it off, or dismisses her? You guessed it, she asks him again. This pattern continues until she becomes angry and proceeds to tell him to do it. Do you see the critical mistake here?

 

So what kind of relationship help advice do I give women to avoid this problem?

 

Listen!

 

Yes, listen.  When a woman actually hears the underlying message her man is conveying to her, she is empowered in her relationship.

 

How?

 

When she becomes an active listener, she understands how to relate with and to her man. This may sound like “therapist talk” but it incredibly helps relationships to thrive.

 

Here is a common example:

A couple has a conversation about the very busy week ahead. During the talk the man shares that he gets overwhelmed when there is too much on his plate at once so he likes to do one thing at a time. The woman shares that she likes to get lots of things done at once in order to get everything off her plate as soon as possible.

During the middle of the hectic week she asks him to fix the door handle that is loose. He tells her he will and mentally puts it on his list. Can you see where this is going now?  She will continually ask and then tell him to take care of the door handle until they both become angry and he thinks she is nothing but an unhappy nag!

If she had heard what he was telling her, she would understand how he best operates in life and never would have added to his schedule. Instead, she would have waited until his schedule lightened up, gently let him know how important it is to her to have the door fixed, and then let him do it in his time.

 

The ironic part of relationships between men and women is that it is so easy to avoid and/or fix this through effective communication.

 

If you need some help in your relationship with understanding and getting along with your partner I can help you in two ways.

 

The first is to suggest you read

 

It’s That Simple!
A Woman’s Book On Relationships, Life, Ourselves and The Healing Of It All

 

You will find incredible relationship help information, tools, and skills (including how to effective communication skills) to create an amazing relationship.

 

The second way I can help you is to work with you directly. We would do this via telephone or Skype sessions.  If you would like my help please feel free to reach me here.

 

 

Bree has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW,  FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.

Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.

Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer provides relationship help books online and free relationship help online.

For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/

 

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