Still Single On Valentine’s Day?
Help For Singles On Valentine’s Day
For someone who does not want to be single, Valentine’s Day can be one of the worst days of the year simply because it can exaggerate the feeling of being alone.
This is generally caused by the social hype of “love and romance” for couples only; leaving even the most confident single open to feeling down about being single.
I have great news! This Valentine’s Day will be different when you follow my proven two step plan.
Tips For Singles On Valentine’s Day
The first step is to embrace this overly commercialized holiday with a completely new perspective. Simply by shifting your perspective, you will empower yourself. Take charge and define this holiday rather than letting it define you or your relationship status.
What do I mean?
Well, since this holiday is all about LOVE grab hold of it and approach it as a day of feeling and spreading love in this world. Some simple ideas you can put into place…
- Send loving texts messages with sweet emojis to all you love
- Social Media Blast to all wishing them a day filled with only love
- Take someone you know, who is all alone, out to celebrate this day of love
- Hand make special Valentines cards and give those away to all you know and love
- Put together a “Love Celebration” with your other single friends. Be bold and make it themed night of fun, laughter and LOVE.
The goal is to not let the idea of and pressures of Valentine’s Day negatively impact your life. Instead, by consciously choosing to spread love, you will feel the joy of expressing love rather than feeling depressed for being single.
Tips For Singles On Valentine’s Day
The second step is to make a pro-active move with your life in order to meet your love. I help singles with this step in their lives all of the time. I prepare them to be in a healthy relationship while guiding them specifically on how to find that special one.
Together we deeply explore and clarify what kind of partner best suits them while setting and holding healthy boundaries for their new relationship. Then I teach them how to date to find the one instead of just dating around. Finally, I teach them how to keep and grow their new relationship into a fully loving one. If I can help you, please reach me here.
Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. is a Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert, Acclaimed Life & Relationship Coach, and Author of the relationship and self-help books It’s That Simple! for men & women.
Bree has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over twenty years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
Need Marriage Rejuvenation?
Marriage Help
Vowing to love, honor, and cherish one another each day for the rest of your life; did you ever imagine there would be a day to come that you would have to “work” to feel the love again?
Brides and groom do not walk down the aisle thinking, “I cannot wait until loving this person becomes work!” Conversely, their ideology before joining in matrimony consists of believing their lives will be better together rather than than apart. For that reason, how do couples get from newlywed bliss to requiring effort to rediscover the love they have for each other?
The simple answer is life happens!
This life journey is filled with daily life stressors such as finances, rearing children, career/work, health issues, family, friends, and work relationships. Quite frankly, life bombards married couples with thousands of ways to stop feeling the love and focus on outside “things.”
Now, it definitely helps to understand how you got into this place with your marriage but that does not ultimately solve the problem. What does solve it is what I like to call, “a pro-active plan of action!” This is a realistic, goal-oriented, definite plan of action that is employed every day in your marriage.
Marriage Help
When I work with my married couples I devise a unique pro-active plan of action per their specific personalities, love languages, and lifestyle. I create this plan, which produces their marriage “love tank” to be filled back up so each can feel the love for the other again.
Sound great? It is!
Being able to help husbands and wives feel the love for one another is one of the most rewarding parts of my work. Watching a couple who were distant, fighting, resentful, or had given up fall in love again and be happily married is astounding. I hope that you are getting that this can be done! All it takes is recognition of the problem and a solid plan put into action to make it occur. You can rejuvenate your marriage and feel like a newlywed again.
Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. is a Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert, Acclaimed Life & Relationship Coach, and Author of the relationship and self-help books It’s That Simple! for men & women.
Bree has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over 20 years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
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Are You Having Post-Wedding Bridal Blues?
Bridal Help from Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.
After months, sometimes years of planning, excited anticipation, endless decision making, and exorbitant amounts of money spent on your wedding; it is over in a moment. Then what? Many brides can experience an emotional letdown, which can cause them to feel depressed. As a newlywed, this is the last thing a bride expects to feel, yet it happens more than commonly thought.
Any bride who had planned a small, medium or large wedding knows how much time, effort, and money goes into each element of making her big day perfect. Whether $20,000 or $100,000 was spent, creating a bride’s special day took on a life of its own. Suddenly, there were vendors, to-do lists, and choices she never thought she would face. Such as, do you prefer David Austin award-winning English Roses or just the garden variety kind? Do you want these roses in a blush, cream, or champagne color? How many would you like per centerpiece, bridal bouquet, and bridesmaids bouquets? Do you want greenery with that or are the flowers on their own enough. The road of detail-oriented decision making is unbelievable.
Now, after her special day turns out to be as magical as she dreamed it could be, she is filled with and surrounded by such great love, and is feeling madly in love with her new husband; why would she wake up feeling a void?
In our American culture, a woman has one time in her life where she is “the queen for a day” and that is on her wedding day. All the focus is set on her, her dress, her hair and her make-up. She is showered with vast amounts of praise of how beautiful she is and is treated with extra special care since she is “The Bride!” It is a wonderful blissful experience. The only problem is when it is over. The reality of real life as just another woman can feel very disorienting. What happen to being the center of everyone’s admiration? The constant photographs being taken and will she ever look that beautiful in her life again? How about the way her groom looked when he first saw her coming down the aisle; will that type of moment occur again?
If this is what you are experiencing, please know that it is normal. The good news for brides experiencing this is that it is usually temporary and will pass on its own naturally, usually within a few weeks. The more you focus on how grateful you are to have had such a perfect day and look forward to life as a married woman walking side-by-side with your loving husband, the easier it will be to get through it. From this day forward you are no longer a bride, you are a married woman who is blessed with the opportunity to build a life with the man you love. Each day you can allow yourself to enjoy the adventure of living life as one, honoring, cherishing, and loving each other all along the way.
Bridal Help from Relationship Help Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.
*If you are unable to move past this and it becomes an actual depression, please seek professional help immediately.
Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. is a Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert, Acclaimed Life & Relationship Coach, and Author of the relationship and self-help books It’s That Simple! for men & women.
Bree has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over 19 years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
5 Tell Tale Signs You Need To Run From Him Now!
Dating Help For Women
As a national relationship expert, one of the most common complaints I hear from women today about dating relationships is how hard it is to find a “nice guy. “ They say things like; “They all cheat,” “none of them will commit,” and “they just want sex.” In order to help woman out in the dating world, I have come up with these five tell tale signs to look for when starting to date a guy in a new relationship. This relationship information may be shocking to you and since, in this life, there are always exceptions; try to take the concept of each warning sign and apply it in your dating life rather than using it as a simple checklist.
#1 Dating Help For Women:
If he pushes for sex too quickly-RUN!
All men want sex, they are men and that is a fact. Depending on their religious beliefs, character, morals, values or lack thereof is what separates them out. A good man will desire you immediately but he is not going to push for sex or make sex the primary goal of the relationship. If he does, that is all he is interested in. A good man is willing to wait for a woman whom he is truly interested in being in a real relationship and/or marriage with.
#2 Dating Help For Women:
If he does not consistently pursue you -RUN!
A good man, who is interested in you, who wants to be in a real relationship will make that happen. He will pursue you without you having to do any of the pursuit. That is how you will know he is truly interested in you. A man pursuing a woman will stay in touch daily and make plans to see her often. If a man is in touch one day and out the next it is because he has you on a rotation with other women in his life. If you want to be a man’s primary pursuit let him pursue you, if he does not, he is just not that interested in you.
#3 Dating Help For Women:
If he gets you to do all the talking -RUN!
This is a difficult one for us women, since we naturally want to talk in order to connect emotionally. The key sign here is when he asks you all about you, your life, your family, career, etc without sharing much of his own. When a man does this, he is listening for your vulnerabilities to play on. A good man, on the other hand, will want to share all about himself and his life in detail with you. There will not be vague answers or mystery surrounding him and his life, there will be transparency.
#4 Dating Help For Women:
If he introduces you to his friends and/or family as his “friend” -RUN!
In the beginning of a relationship is can be very awkward as to how to begin introducing each other in public. However, if he uses the word “friend,” get out! He does not consider you his girlfriend and is letting you know that up front. A good man who is unsure as to how to introduce you, will ask you or simply state your name when making introductions. When a man uses the word “friend” he is letting you and the world know that is all you are to him, even if you just slept with him last night.
#5 Dating Help For Women:
If he keeps trying to find things wrong with you because you are “so great” -RUN!
If a good man finds you intriguing and “so different from all the rest.” He is going to be seeking out all the good in you. He will delight in every new little nuance he discovers in you. If a man tells you how amazing you are but then looks to find out what is wrong with you, he is looking for something to hang his hat on so he can convince himself you are not what he is really looking for. This has nothing to do with you at all. He is simply not ready to commit, has intimacy issues, or is still broken from his past.
All of these are clear signs that something is not right with him or your new relationship. Observe him, watch his actions, and listen to your God-given intuition. A woman’s intuition is not a joke, or something made up in our heads. It is real, trust it, it is there to help you avoid the wrong guys so the right one can come into your life.
Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. is a Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert, Acclaimed Life & Relationship Coach, and Author of the relationship and self-help books It’s That Simple! for men & women.
Bree has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over 19 years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
How To Find Love Through Online Dating
I am often asked if online dating really is a good way to find someone. My answer is Yes! just as long as you know what you are doing and keep a streamlined focus.
Here are some of my favorite tips for dating online and finding love…
Clarity:
Know exactly what you want in a partner and do not settle nor compromise on these things ever. A good place to start is to write a simple list of all the qualities you would like in your online match. From there, rank these from number one through number ten. Next, take your top five and write those qualities or characteristics out specifically in your profile paragraph. Take the remaining sixth through tenth and sprinkle those through your answers to the profile questions. Finally, know for sure your top three deal breakers. For most people these can include lifestyle choices, relationship goals, and wanting children or not. Stick to your deal breakers no matter how good the online profile you are viewing may seem.
Tips for dating online and finding love…
Honesty:
This is very simple…state who you really are, what you are looking for in a relationship, and share current, real-to-life photos of yourself. One of the biggest complaints I hear is that people put pictures of themselves when they were much younger or photos that no longer represent how they look now. The gig is up! If the person is attracted to your photo and you show up not looking as good as or better than your photo(s)-they will not be happy!
Tips for dating online and finding love…
Safety:
Whether you are a man or a woman online dating requires you to use good common sense and put in some safety nets. I recommend emailing back and forth for at least four or five times exchanging questions and answers. If this correspondence goes well, then go ahead and speak on the phone. If you like what you hear and wish to meet in person, be sure to exchange full names (search them online to find out all you can), tell someone who you are meeting and where, and then agree to meet in a very public place. Never give someone your personal address, have them meet you at your house, or in a secluded area-regardless of how great they seem.
Tips for dating online and finding love…
Fun:
So you make it to your first online dating date…have fun! Go into the date with a light-hearted attitude that you will meet someone new that may or may not be the one but you are going to have a good time no matter what. Stay on light conversations being sure not spill your entire life story out on your first date. The bottom line is that relationships take time, so take yours and enjoy.
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Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. is a Nationally Recognized Relationship Expert, Acclaimed Life & Relationship Coach, and Author of the relationship and self-help books It’s That Simple! for men & women.
Bree has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post.
Bree has Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and over fifteen years of clinical experience working with men, women, and couples.
For more information on Relationship Help Online please visit Bree’s website
http://itsthatsimple.ws/
God First-Better Marriage?
From where I stand, as someone who has worked with couples for over fifteen years, the answer is a resounding yes!
The couples, whom place God at the Center and Head of their marriage, tend to handle life stressors more effectively. They are more likely to process through these pressures, which can often tear a marriage apart, rather than attack one another because of them. For example, financial strains are handled with faith, prayer, and a joining together rather than a break down in the marriage.
Now, this is not to say faith-centered marriages will not face the same difficulties as non-faith centered marriages, it just means they handle it differently. So the question we need to look at is “Why?”
What makes these couples different and more capable of protecting their marriage?
The primary reason is their commitment to their faith and their marriage. They are not the type of couple who immediately thinks of divorce as an option when times get tough. Instead, they look for ways to move through the troubling times holding onto their commitment to one another and God. This in our disposable, instant gratification, “what is in it for me?” centered culture is amazing. These couples rise above the social norm and find a way to make it work by employing a “whatever it takes attitude.”
The second main reason is their willingness to work on things. Again, they are not looking to end things as an option so being willing to find the solution becomes much easier and applicable. With their willingness comes a desire to “own” their mistakes or part in what is troubling the marriage. Rather than pointing the finger and blaming, they seek to find out how they can improve themselves and their marriage.
Coming in as the third key reason is best described by the word sacredness. These couples view their vows and commitment of marriage to one another with God as a holy act, not to be taken lightly. This means when the winds, rain, and storms of life come they hold tightly to their belief in the sanctity of marriage as well as their faith in God’s guidance, care, and Love to help them through.
When I work with these couples, they are eager to do what it takes to get through their problems and develop a happy marriage. Instead of fighting the healing process, they embrace it, which benefits them greatly by speeding it up and producing higher success rates!
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On The Road To Having An Affair & Don’t Even Know It?
Often well-meaning, men and women of faith and good character can end up in a place they never thought possible. An innocent slight glance, warm smile, or humorous exchange may be just that. However, if one is not careful, warning signs may be missed along the way creating an “accidental” affair never intended.
Relationship Help With An Infidelity
“Definitely I would never end up in affair!” you may be thinking to yourself. Yet, it happens at an extraordinary high rate. “While percentages of extramarital sex (EMS) vary from study to study, it can be estimated that 50-60% of married men and 45-55% of married women engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their marriage.*”
There are some common reasons both men and women end up having an affair.
- Unresolved discord in their marriage
- Ineffective communication skills
- An unsatisfactory marital sex life
- Financial pressures or distress
- Feeling unloved or taken for granted in the marriage
- Lack of physical affection
- Lost emotional connection
- Stressors of having and raising children
- Alcohol, substance, or drug use/abuse
- Unhealed childhood issues
Fortunately, if these elements are present in a marriage, this does not mean there will be an infidelity. It simply means that each partner should be careful to ensure they are addressing and healing what is wrong in their marriage.
Relationship Help With An Infidelity
Before an affair actually occurs, there are many steps or “warning signs” along the way. When these are heeded, an affair can definitely be stopped before it starts. Yet, when they are not… look out!!
Here are some common signs to be aware of…
- Feeling excited or “alive” when seeing the other person
- Thinking about the other person more than occasionally
- Finding excuses to have contact via text, email, phone, or in person with the other person
- Fantasying about the other person
- Comparing your spouse to the other person
- Finding more faults with your spouse
- Becoming more impatient or irritated with your spouse
- Rationalizing your thoughts and behaviors about the other person
Fundamentally people in our modernized society get married because they are in love and believe their marriage is going to work. They sign up for a lifetime of happy wedded bliss. However, when that is not the reality, having an affair is not the answer! If you feel you may be on the road of having an affair- simply stop, turn around, and reach out for help.
How Do I Get My Husband To Listen To Me?
Relationship Help
Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.
Sadly, How Do I Get My Husband To Listen To Me? is one of the top questions married women ask me.
Although it is commonly known how important communication is for a relationship and/or marriage to thrive; most do not understand exactly how to go about it.
When a woman communicates with her man, she must have the right skill set in order for her to successfully convey her message. Many women make the familiar mistake of telling their man what to do instead of asking him. A common example of this could sound like, “Take the garbage out!” The reason this does not often work is basically when a man feels he is being controlled, he often will rebel using either aggressive remarks or passive aggressive behaviors.
In either case, he and she will end up angry and most likely resentful. If she had the right effective communication tools, she would know to say instead, “Honey, when you have time could you please take out the garbage? It helps me so much.” See the difference? In this request she is giving her man the freedom to accomplish the chore when he wants to. This way he is not feeling controlled. In fact, he will feel good about helping her out.
The same goes for when a man communicates with his woman. He must understand how to speak to her in a way that she can clearly hear and not misinterpret. The number of times my male clients have told me that what she heard and what he said were two completely different things is astounding.
I have two ways in which to help you with this all too familiar relationship problem.
The first is to work with me personally. I will teach and coach you on becoming a successful effective communicator with your man along with helping you with any other relationship problems you may be experiencing. We can do this over the phone or in person.
You can reach me here or call 704-552-3690.
The second is to read It’s That Simple! a relationship help book for woman. You will learn about yourself, your relationship, and how to have the best relationship you have ever had!
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Free Relationship Help & Advice From An Expert!
Free Relationship Help & Advice
Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A.
I truly wish I could help every person looking for help with his or her relationship. Since that would be physically impossible, what I have done instead is provided free relationship help and advice articles on my website www.itsthatsimple.ws.
These articles are filled with important information and tools men and women can use to help their relationships immediately.
The areas in which couples need help with their relationship can range from a slight tweaking all the way to professional assistance. Each man and woman must decide for himself or herself what it is his or her partner and relationship needs to improve it.
Some of the more common areas relationships face problems in and need help include:
Communication
Sex
Intimacy
Financial Issues
Dysfunctional Behavioral Patterns
Family Dynamics
All of these relationship help topics are addressed for free on my site. Help yourself and your relationship right now by visiting www.itsthatsimple.ws.
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Is Money Ruining Your Relationship?
Relationship Expert Bree Maresca-Kramer
Relationship Help From An Expert
Statistically, one the top reasons relationships and marriages end is because of money issues. Ironically, this does not always mean there is not enough money to cover all of the expenses; it quite often has to do with one or both partners having unresolved anger and/or resentments towards the other concerning money and how it is handled. These feelings often emerge from a breakdown in the couples respect and understanding of one another.
Generally, there exists…
• A power struggle
• A lack of compromise
• Absence of financial understanding
• A scarcity perception
• Mismatched money goals
Relationship Help From An Expert # 1:
There are several things a couple can do to successfully navigate through these waters.
The first is to employ effective communication. This encompasses sharing with one another your ideas, feelings, and fears surrounding the money situation in your relationship. This really is easy to say but often not easy to do simply because many couples do not have the skills.
The great news is that these communication skills can be learned and applied in your relationship immediately. There are two ways to attain this help with improving communication. The first are the It’s That Simple! Relationship Help Books for Men and Women. The second is working with me one-on-one via phone or Skype.
Relationship Help From An Expert # 2:
The second important element to incorporate into your relationship is compromise. This works when both partners are actively participating equally, meaning each is willing to give a little to find the mutually agreeable ground.
In relationships where one partner is adamant that it must be his or her way, not only is an unnecessary power struggle created but a dysfunctional relationship as well.
Believe it or not, I see more married women doing this to their husbands than the other way around.
Relationship Help From An Expert # 3:
Lastly, is the element of mutual respect. Most of the time, when couples come to me for help with their relationship the level of respect they have for one another has been seriously eroded.
We work together to rebuild their relationship first by gaining clarity and understanding of one another. We then move on to how to respectfully treat and talk with the other. From there we incorporate a healthy money consciousness within the relationship. By the time the couple is done, not only are their money issues resolved but their entire relationship has been improved!
Acclaimed Relationship & Life Coach Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. holds a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling, has over sixteen years of clinical experience working with individuals and couples. Bree has been featured on NBC, CBS, The CW, FOX NEWS, National Radio Programming, The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, In-Touch Magazine, The Nest Magazine, Woman’s Day Magazine, E-Harmony, AOL, and is a Relationship Expert Columnist for The Huffington Post
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